All things marriage

Genuine question...

Am I being unrealistic in hoping to find someone at my age (39), with four children aged 5 to 15, who shares the same dream and values?

I'm looking for someone who already has children, is happy not to have any more, and wants a life partner to journey through this life—and the Hereafter—with. Someone who wants to blend our families and build one big, loving, happy family together.

Does a relationship like that still exist, or am I expecting too much?

Question: What's ruining Muslim marriage prospects more?

A. Unrealistic standards.

B. Cultural expectations.

C. Poor communication.

D. Fear of commitment.

Pick one and defend your answer.

Being in your late twenties and single means everytime you catch up with a friend it’s bound to come up “so talking to anyone new?” “How’s your marriage search?” And everytime you call to catch up with a friend or family they say “oh! I thought you were calling to tell me you’re getting married”.

Must everything revolve around marriage?? 🥲

Assalamualaikum how are you
If someone have interest
Can contact me

What is something you've done that's pushed you out of your comfort zone?

Compulsory reading for every Muslim on this app
https://yaqeeninstitute.org/read/paper/breaking-free-unshackling-the-muslim-mind-from-secular-thought-and-reestablishing-the-islamic-personality

I’ve been using Muzz for about three months now. I’ve matched with quite a few women, and I’ve met several of them in person. My experience has left me wondering if others have gone through something similar.

On dates, I’m usually expected to pay for dinner, coffee, and transportation, which I’m generally okay with. But when the conversation turns to marriage or the future, I’ve often heard expectations like this: we would both work, but my income would be responsible for the rent, bills, food, travel, and other household expenses, while her income would be her own to spend or save as she chooses. At the same time, household chores would be shared equally, and I’d also be expected to drive her to work, pick her up, and take care of things around the house.

This has made me wonder what the balance is supposed to be. To me, a marriage should be a partnership where both people contribute in different ways and support each other fairly. Lately, though, I’ve sometimes felt that I’m expected to be more of a financial provider than an equal partner.

I’m not saying everyone is like this, and I know everyone’s values and expectations are different. I’m simply curious whether others, especially men or women using Muzz have had similar experiences, or if I’ve just been unlucky with the people I’ve met.

I’d genuinely like to hear different perspectives and have a respectful discussion

Experience...
You have to go through it to get it.
Once you have it you wish you could go through it, with it. But if you're not inexperienced you can't gain experience and learn the lesson.

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By the time you finally know what to do, the moment that taught you has already passed.

AOA...
Many of us are here to find their better half, I have been checking profiles of females, also liked some of those, for more than 1 week. I noticed some terminologies that are being frequently used by females in their profile. I have some questions and need some clarification from all members and especially from girls. Today I'll ask only one question with all possible aspects.

1. What do you mean by a settled man?
   What is the threshold value in terms of money that a man earns would take him into so called "settled" category?

A. 45k-55k/month + bike+savings of 500k
with or without a house in a society

B. 55k-100k + bike+savings of 500k with or without a house in a society

C. 100k-200k + car+savings of 500k with or without a house in a society

D. More than 500k monthly income+car with or without a house in a society

Before answering this question also take in mind the ground realities of our country, that how many people would fall in these A, B, C, & D Categories and these would also be religious, respectful, noble, practicing Muslims, mentally strong....

Plz give your worthy opinion...😊

Shared by a guy on Muzz. @mohsin124 thanks Bhai for highlighting

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