All things marriage

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Hello

👤 Personal Information
Name: Usama
Gender: Male
Age: 26 Years
Marital Status: Single
Height: 5′7″
Weight: 64 kg
Disability: None

🎓 Education

Bachelor’s Degree

💼 Professional Details

Occupation: Government Employee (PS-11)
Additional Work: Property Consultant
Assets: Own House

🕋 Religion & Background

Religion: Islam
Caste: Sheikh
Languages: Punjabi, Urdu, English
Family Background: Urdu-speaking family

👨‍👩‍👦 Family Details

Father: Late
Mother: Housewife
Siblings: 1 brother (married)
City: Lahore

💐 Partner Preference

Age between 18–23 years

Educated (Graduate or above)

Positive outlook on life

Kind-hearted and family-oriented

Preferably from a small family background

Someone who values understanding and family bonds

Hello everyone. I hope you are all doing well. The purpose of this post is to introduce myself. I am 23 years old, and I consider myself a mature, honest, and genuine person. I am looking for a real life partner to start a beautiful journey with—a life built on love, mutual respect, honesty, and loyalty.
I am completely open to marrying someone who is divorced or an independent woman, as long as there is true compatibility. However, I have one major preference: I do not wish to stay in Pakistan after marriage. My goal is to relocate and move on to a good European country where we can build a fresh, new life together.
I am mentioning my Instagram handle below, so please reach out to me there if you are genuinely interested and want to know more details about me."
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I’ve been seeing a lot of discussions lately about what a reasonable Mehr looks like. Instead of writing an essay in someone else’s comment section, I decided to do what every respectable yapper on Jamaa does and make my own post.

I did spent a few days reading about it few months ago because I was personally and genuinely curious.

From what I found, Islam doesn’t prescribe a fixed maximum amount of mehr. It is the bride’s right, and the amount is something the couple agrees upon willingly. At the same time, the Sunnah encourages moderation and discourages making marriage unnecessarily difficult through excessive demands.

One example that repeatedly came up during my reading was what is commonly referred to as Mahr Fatimi, the amount associated with the marriages of the Prophet ﷺ’s daughters. The narrations mention around 500 silver dirhams, which is approximately 1.5 kilograms of silver. When I converted that into today’s value, I was actually surprised. It wasn’t a tiny symbolic amount, but it also wasn’t an impossible figure that would prevent an ordinary person from getting married.

What stayed with me even more than the amount itself was who it belonged to.

The daughters of the Prophet ﷺ are among the greatest women to have ever lived. Their character, faith, and closeness to Allah are examples I could only hope to emulate. So, for me personally, knowing the amount of mehr they received gives me a sense of perspective. If women of that calibre were honoured with a mehr of around 500 silver dirhams, then I find it difficult to feel the need to ask for something vastly beyond that. Not because Islam forbids it, it doesn’t but because, for me, trying to exceed the example of women I admire so deeply feels unnecessary and a little prideful. At the same time, their mehr was by no means small or insignificant. It carried real value. To me, that reflects the balance the Sunnah teaches which is honour the bride with something meaningful without turning marriage into a financial hurdle.

I feel like we’ve drifted toward two extremes. On one side, there are people who think mehr should be purely symbolic, a Qur’an, ₹786, or a ring which kind of asks the bride to give up on her right . On the other, there are expectations so high that the conversation starts sounding more like negotiating a financial settlement than preparing for security within the marriage.

To me, personally Mehr isn’t a price placed on a woman, nor is it a test designed to prove how much a man loves her. It’s a right that Allah gave to the bride, something that belongs to her alone and reflects honour, commitment, and financial security. She should never be made to feel guilty for asking for something meaningful, just as a man shouldn’t be made to feel inadequate because he isn’t wealthy.

Personally, I don’t think there is one number that every woman should ask for. People’s circumstances, responsibilities, and means are all different. What matters is that both people arrive at an amount sincerely, without pressure, resentment, or performative expectations.

This was simply my takeaway after spending a few days reading about the topic. If I’ve misunderstood something, I’m always happy to learn. Knowledge grows through sincere correction, not ego. You’re all respectfully welcome to add your points and personal opinion.

Hi 💪🏻

A peaceful Muslim marriage isn’t built by blaming one gender.

Women shouldn’t take marriage advice from voices that pull them away from the Qur’an and Sunnah. Men shouldn’t take marriage advice from ideologies that fuel arrogance, anger or contempt.

A righteous wife is a blessing. A righteous husband is a blessing. Both have flaws. Both have responsibilities. Both should strive to follow the example of Prophet Muhammad ﷺ—not internet influencers, not feminism and not the red-pill movement.

A successful marriage begins when both spouses ask, “How can I become better?” rather than, “What’s wrong with the other?”

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Goals compatible distance blah blah blah blah
How can you explain to a woman that she will get this 👇🏻😄😄😆😆😆

Salam guys 🤎