All things marriage

Men don't like women who's independent,self sufficient..

They want women who will beg them for everyone they want the ones with the low self-esteem

Still remember, he had a choice... and he didn't choose you... :)

Imagine a scenario where you’re talking to a potential who checks all the boxes, loves talking with you and texting and shares the same values, but you notice a few issues.

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  Firstly, when you and your family go to her family’s home, when she and her mother are talking to your mother, she seems to talk over her own mother when she feels her mother is stuttering or taking too long to make a point

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  Secondly, her father seemed to be enthusiastic about wanting a quick wedding and a relatively small and simple one, but after the fact, she made him “more aware of the circumstances that there should be a large wedding just based on guests” and she wants to take some more time to decide so the next time your father speaks with her father, he’s much more ambivalent and seems to want to punt the discussion to the next time your family and her family meet in person, which is scheduled for next month.

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  Thirdly, while saying she wanted to move forward, you aren’t sure if you heard correctly but she may have offhandedly made a remark that implied she doesn’t find you attractive, saying that Allah puts attraction into people’s hearts after marriage.

How cooked are you in this scenario? What would you do? Would you end it immediately? Are there any questions you could ask just to make sure she’s not disrespectful to her own parents and isn’t just settling for you? Would continuing basically be simp behavior and a sign of a lack of self esteem and self respect? What if besides the above you actually like her? What if she was just trying to help her mom instead of interrupting and speaking for her? In her culture, it’s custom for the bride’s side to pay for most events except for the walima, so even if your family and you generally want a small wedding because of the cost and just to avoid general nazar, if you don’t know any of their guests and you’re not really paying or planning for it, should you care? Could it be possible that maybe she’s just not interested in thinking about attractiveness and romance until marriage and that’s what she meant?

I would personally recommend in this imaginary scenario that you have a phone call to play it out but I wouldn’t even know what to say or ask. I don’t want to start a marriage with a woman straight up disrespecting me by thinking I’m not attractive because that’s totally settling behavior and I’m not someone who can just be settled for, like I’m nothing except second fiddle. And if she doesn’t even respect her own parents, then what can I expect of how she’ll treat me and my family? A big part of me wants to end this tomorrow straight up, but I’ve invested so much into this relationship now and I just want to be done with this search. My mind is pretty made up but I want so badly for this to work, for all this to be a misunderstanding. I get glimpses of feeling like she’s happy to be talking to me, but how do I know it’s sincere? How can I know that she respects me and actually wants to move forward and get married? Ya Allah, make this easy for me!

Genuine question, how come it seems that when a disagreement or miscommunication happens we tend to end things without trying to resolve them? Not sure if its a lack of patience issue or what, but it seems easy to let go instead of make work.

15🔁PICKUP 🔃 LINES🔀..ok ok, Big Bro is here to help you all out..some of these are reposts from my previous pick-up line posts..1) Do you believe in love at first sight..or should I walk by you again? 2) I had this amazing dream last night ..and you were in it. 3) Are you a parking ticket?..because you have FINE written all over you. 4) Well, here I am! ..what are your other 2 wishes? 5) Would you mind giving me directions...to your heart? 6) You must be a magician..because when I look at you everything else disappears. 7) You're pretty, and I'm cute.. together we'd be pretty cute. 8) So..besides being good-looking, what else do you do on your free time? 9) Truth or date? 10) On a scale of 1 to 10, you're a 9 and I'm the 1 for you. 11) Roses are red, violets are blue..how did I get so lucky to match with you. 12) You don't know how many times I swiped left to find you. 13) I'd say bless you, but it looks like you already have been. 14) Are you into Star Wars, because Yoda only one for me. 15) Mom told me not to talk to strangers online, but I'll make an exception for you. ..🎱Ha...think that's enough for now

I survived all the snakes, but at last a butterfly killed me. The ones that look gentle and pretty in your eyes can destroy you the easiest. Be careful - you fight your enemies, but it's the ones who don't seem like enemies that break you.

Yesterday, someone asked how to spot a scammer, but the post was deleted 🥹

I didn't want my advice to go to waste, so I'm resharing it here to help others avoid their traps📝

Based on my experience, here is the scammer’s playbook:

1. The Private Shift: When they first get to know you, they immediately ask for your personal number to secure your undivided attention and love-bomb you on a private platform 📱

2. Vulnerability Fishing: They ask why you broke up with your last ex. If you hesitate, they quickly share their own breakup reasons to lower your guard and gain your trust

3. The Script Selection: This profiles your vulnerabilities so they can pick the right script from their library to play the perfect savior based on your past wounds (targeting victim with a history of abuse, a cheated ex, a narcissistic ex or a broken family etc).

4. Love-Bombing to the Max: They fast-track the relationship, rushing into marriage talks without actually knowing you.

5. Too Good to Be True: They look and sound flawless, but your instinct can feel the red flags. Always trust your gut feeling!❗️

6. The Wealth Flex: They constantly brag about a stable, high-paying job and apparent wealth, while subtly fishing for information about your own financial status 💰

7. Stolen Pictures: They hide behind a fake identity. Always do a reverse image search on any photos they send 📸👩‍💻🧑‍💻

8. Weird Chatting Hours: You will start noticing highly inconsistent or erratic chatting hours ⏰

9. Dodging Calls: They will flat-out refuse to pick up any voice calls or video calls ☎️📞

10. The Physical Avoidance & Isolation: They constantly refuse to meet up in person. They use the lone wolf sob story (claiming they are an only child or have no family and friends) so they can later claim you are the only one who can help them.

11. The Money Trap: The moment they ask for money, no matter how convincing the story is, do not give them a single cent. It is a boundary test. If you give in, they will keep demanding more. RUN and BLOCK them by all means! 🚩🚩🚩

Suggest a book that will crush my soul.

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Looks like no one’s getting married anytime soon anyway 😂

Let’s explore the world, make memories, and enjoy life. When Allah has written marriage for us, it’ll happen at the right time. 🤲

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Why would I go 50/50 with a man?
WHEN I'm going 100% by myself...
-Im self sufficient
-Im independent
-I pay my own bills