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I met a Malaysian man of Pakistani descent on this platform. A difference in principles arose during our conversation. He believed that living together and being sexually intimate with a partner was normal; I respected his view without insulting or offending him—I certainly didn't lecture or look down on him. However, I place great value on personal honor and do not wish to engage in a romantic relationship before marriage, a stance I had already stated in my profile. I politely suggested that we stop getting to know each other, as I could not accept that principle. Unfortunately, he took offense, calling me "Miss Perfect" and wishing that I remain single forever because he felt I was "playing hard to get." Did I do something wrong?

As a woman if you keep shooting out your mouths that you dont want to do 50/50 finances at least say you are willing to be a traditional housewife cause none of you do

Assalamu Alaikum,
Personally, I believe cousin marriage is not the right choice for me. My social circle is quite limited, so it's not easy for me to meet someone outside my family or city. I still have about a year before I plan to get married, and to be honest, I had started feeling quite discouraged. Then I came across this app, and it gave me hope again.
I sincerely pray that, Insha'Allah, I will find a kind and compatible life partner here.
I don't have unrealistic expectations or excessive demands. In today's world, all I hope for is a good-hearted, sincere person.
May Allah guide and protect us all. Ameen

Hi

Can we normalize ending conversations with honesty instead of the block button?

Over the past few years on marriage apps, I've learned one thing: rejection has never bothered me nearly as much as poor communication.

I've had conversations that became serious very quickly, only to end with being blocked instead of hearing, "I don't think we're compatible." I've met people who seemed genuinely interested one week and completely detached the next. I've also met people whose words didn't match their actions, or where I later realized I wasn't getting the full picture.

None of these experiences make someone a bad person. They simply reminded me that you can't judge sincerity by a profile, a degree, a hijab, or how religious someone appears online. Character reveals itself over time, especially when conversations become uncomfortable.

If you're no longer interested, just say so.
If something bothered you, say it.
If we're incompatible, that's perfectly okay.

A 30-second message can save both people days or even weeks of confusion. It gives both people closure and allows them to move on with dignity.

I've also noticed something else that modern dating seems to have normalized. If someone follows up, asks for clarification, or simply wants to understand what happened, they're often labeled as "chasing," "desperate," or worse. Sometimes that's true,.but sometimes it's just someone trying to understand why a conversation that seemed genuine suddenly disappeared. Not every follow-up is harassment, and not every disagreement deserves the block button.

One thing I've often wondered is whether this post would be received differently if it were written by a woman. I've seen many sisters share similar frustrations and receive empathy and encouragement, which is a good thing. I just hope we can extend that same empathy to brothers as well. Respect, honesty, and healthy communication shouldn't depend on who's telling the story.

At the end of the day, I don't think rejection is the hardest part of the marriage search.

Silence is.

Real confidence isn't leaving someone wondering what they did wrong.

Real maturity is simply saying:

"Thank you for your time. I don't think we're compatible, but I genuinely wish you the best."

It takes less than a minute, gives both people closure, and lets everyone move on with their dignity intact.
Curious... what's been your experience? Have we normalized ghosting and blocking instead of simply communicating?

The modern dating world is interesting… some men want Princess Treatment, but forget that a High-Value Woman is looking for a man who brings stability, effort, protection, and consistency to the table.

Some men nowadays:

• -"Sponsor my ticket."
• -"Come to my country."
• -"Support me financially if I move to your country."
• -Fake Hope & Promises
• -Bringing Allah’s name into every conversation.

They're very Good Actor tbh..be careful ladies!

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