All things marriage

I will do tomorrow .

The idea that your life is over because you didn't achieve X by Y age is one of the dumbest lies ever sold to people.

It's fear disguised as wisdom.

Scarcity disguised as realism.

You're 25 and not rich?

Finished.

You're 30 and not married?

Finished.

You're 35 and starting over?

Finished.

According to who?

Most people are running around with invisible deadlines they never chose.

Deadlines handed to them by parents.

Teachers.

Friends.

Society.

The internet.

Meanwhile life doesn't give a **** about your timeline.

Some people win at 20 and disappear by 30.

Some people struggle until 40 and dominate the next 40 years.

The scoreboard only matters when the game is over.

And for most of you, the game isn't even close to being over.

The real prison isn't your age.

It's the belief that your age means something is no longer possible.

That's the thought that kills dreams.

That's the thought that makes men quit.

That's the thought that convinces people to settle.

Abundance is understanding that opportunities never stop.

New money.

New skills.

New friendships.

New businesses.

New women.

New beginnings.

As long as you're breathing, the board is still in play.

Most people surrender because they believe the window closed.

The rare person laughs and climbs through another one.

You can reinvent yourself at 20.

At 30.

At 40.

At 50.

At 60.

The only thing that truly makes it impossible is deciding it's impossible.

The moment you stop worshipping arbitrary timelines, your life becomes a lot bigger.

Because you realize something most people never do:

You were never late.

You just listened to people who quit too early.

there are several important topics that are often overlooked when moving into a more serious stage of a relationship.

1. prenuptial agreement .
   this is an important yet rarely discussed topic. such an agreement is highly beneficial for both the prospective wife and husband. especially if ur future husband is a business owner, it is very important to draw up a prenuptial agreement and an agreement for the separation of assets. separating ur assets from ur husband's is crucial if he is an entrepreneur, as it prevents your assets from being seized should he go bankrupt in the future. If ur assets remain secure should ur husband face difficulties in the future, they can serve as a lifeline to help both of u get back on ur feet.

2. mental health assessment. prioritizing mental health is crucial, especially to avoid entering a relationship with someone suffering from NPD (Narcissistic Personality Disorder) or BPD (Borderline Personality Disorder). mental readiness before marriage is essential. if u have anxiety, PTSD , or etc u should check and talks with ur partner and psychologist to prevent unwanted issues in the future such as misunderstandings regarding ur mental health, avoiding a manipulative partner, and understanding ur partner's condition.

3. health screening . this is vital, particularly regarding reproductive health and the prevention of sexually transmitted diseases. knowing ur partner's health status is crucial to avoid future regrets. it is better to undergo a comprehensive health check-up before getting married. u need to know what illness ur partner has, as well as the treatment and management involved.

4. vaccinations for sexual health protection.
   we never know what the future holds prevention is better than cure.

5. division of responsibilities regarding children .
   raising children is not solely the wife's responsibility but a shared one. u need to discuss this to ensure both parties are prepared.

6. attending pre marriage preparation sessions.
   many people avoid this, yet engaging with the material serves as important preparation for married life whether through mosque based programs or private sessions with an ustaz or ustazah

7. discuss contraception and its side effects. hormonal contraceptives come with many side effects. it would be wise for u to discuss with doctor and learn about this before getting married. discuss about reproductive health, desired number of children, and other important matters.

8. readiness for married life isn't just about money, a house, or children
   .it is about long-term commitment. every household will inevitably be tested by Allah, so it would be wise for u to prepare yourselves beforehan and learn from the people around u.

9. perenting
   If u want to have children, learn about parenting from an expert. u can take a parenting class.

10. stay away from pornographic sites. pornography sites can impair brain function, damage nerves, and cause other harmful effects. u can read research journals on this topic.

11. learn that engaging in a-nal intercourse carries negative and harmful effects. u can read up on this in academic journals. most of what u watch on that lousy blue site only teaches things that are wrong and destructive.

12. learn how to be a husband who is not patriarchal, misogynistic, or sexist,etc. learn how to be good husband and good father. learn to be a good father to ur child so they do not grow up fatherless. learn how to be a good wife avoiding misandry, emotional volatility, and irrational jealousy, etc. learn to be a good mother so ur child does not grow up motherless. 🙏

Assalamoalikum everyone

guys need to know that some filters are not for them, mou extra chita hojta hai and that ruins the whole picture. Aur muzz py kon rkhta hai innocent boy naam?😭

To all the ladies available, I am ready to settle down now, if you can afford me, come and marry me, Time is limited.

Adriatic sea..

"Maybe I'm not enough for everyone, but I'll be everything for the right person. 🌹"

An interesting perspective on the changing attitudes within different societies
https://youtu.be/5YuDFZvJWAA

The end state of hypergamy is polygamy