If a Muslim woman comes to know of a man who has good character and deen and would make a good husband, there is absolutely nothing wrong with approaching him in an honorable way with a marriage proposal.

Some ways that she could do this would be to ask her parents to approach his parents;

or to send a message through someone who knows him (for example his sister, aunt, cousin, etc) that she is interested, in order to learn if he also might be interested.

She can also approach him directly and raise the subject, as long as she follows Islamic rules of etiquette (meeting in public, having a chaperone, no flirtatious or sexual speech, lowering the gaze, etc).

This may be seen as improper or brazen in some cultures. But that is a cultural attitude, not an Islamic one.

Let us look to the Prophet Muhammad (Sallallahu Alahi Wasalam) as our example,

since the Quran says, 📚📖

“There has certainly been for you in the Messenger of Allah an excellent pattern for anyone whose hope is in Allah and the Last Day and [who] remembers Allah often.”

📚📖(33:21)📖📚

First of all,

He accepted a proposal from a woman,our mother Khadijah (RA), who became His wife.

Our mother Khadijah was impressed with the personality of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) and she wanted to marry Him.

So she sent her friend Nafeesah bint Maniyyah to tell the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) about that.

He (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) agreed, and the marriage of Khadijah (may Allaah be pleased with her) was arranged by her father Khuwaylid, according to the most sound reports, as mentioned by the scholars of seerah.

With regard to the idea of a Muslim woman offering herself in marriage to a righteous man, that does not contradict the idea of modesty, so long as he is trustworthy with regard to his religious commitment and moral attitude.

🗣️It was narrated that Thaabit al Banaani said:

I was with Anas ibn Maalik and a daughter of his was with him.

🗣️He said:

A woman came to the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) and offered herself in marriage to Him.

🗣️She said:

O Messenger of Allaah, do you want to marry me?

The daughter of Anas said:

How little was her modesty. How shameless, how shameless!

🗣️Anas said:

She was better than you; she had a liking for the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) so she offered herself in marriage to Him.

📚📖Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 4848.📚📖

This Hadith indicate that it is permissible for a woman to offer herself in marriage to a man, and to let him know that she has a liking for him, and there is nothing wrong with her doing so.

And the one to whom a woman offers herself in marriage has the choice of either accepting or refusing, but he does not have to express his refusal outright, rather it is sufficient for him to remain silent.

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