Muslims in London

A wise brother wrote this amazingly thoughtful comments on my one post regarding Halal marriage and Haram Relationship. So, I want to post this comment with his due consent that other wise brother and sister can reflect on this.

"There is truth in this statement, especially in the time we live in.

Many people have made halal marriage unnecessarily difficult with excessive demands, social pressure, luxury expectations, expensive weddings, unrealistic standards, and endless “requirements,” while haram relationships are made easy, casual, and socially normalized.

Yet the human soul naturally inclines toward what gives immediate pleasure and excitement, even if it is harmful in the long run. That is why people often fall into haram more easily than halal. The Prophet S.A.W already explained this reality:
“Paradise is surrounded by hardships, and Hellfire is surrounded by desires.”

Meaning the soul is usually attracted to desires first, while discipline and lawful commitment require patience, sacrifice, and responsibility.

A haram relationship often demands little responsibility:

i.no accountability,

ii.no family involvement,

iii.no long-term commitment,

iv.no financial responsibility,

V.no real sacrifice.

But halal marriage comes with duty, leadership, patience, mercy, provision, compromise, and accountability before Allah.

Naturally, many people run toward what is easy for the nafs (the soul).

At the same time, society has also contributed to the problem:

i.Some families make marriage feel like a business transaction.

ii.Some people care more about status than character and deen.

iii.Social media has increased unrealistic expectations.

iv.Simplesunnah marriages are now mocked while extravagant ceremonies are praised.

Meanwhile, zina and casual relationships are promoted everywhere as “freedom” and “love.”

Islam, however, made marriage simple and honorable. The Prophet S.A.W encouraged marrying for deen and character, not for endless worldly standards. Some of the best marriages in Islamic history were simple but full of barakah.

That said, not every marriage challenge is “materialistic.” Some people are cautious because marriage is a serious lifelong responsibility. Compatibility, emotional maturity, financial stability, safety, and character also matter. So balance is important.
The solution is not to normalize haram because halal feels difficult.

The solution is to return to the Islamic balance:

simplify marriage,

reduce unnecessary cultural burdens,

*prioritize deen and character,
and remember that barakah is more important than luxury.

Because many people today are delaying halal while emotionally exhausting themselves in haram situations that often give temporary pleasure but long-term damage.

May S.W.T save this Ummah against fitnah ,guides us to the right path and choose for us best spouses. Ameeeeeeeeeen.''

We need to change our mentality and get out of materialistic desire in marriage and make it simple according to Sunnah. Our Beloved Prophet PBUH has made marriage simplest if we follow Him accordingly.

Salaams everyone, anyone looking for a chat and see where it may lead to?
Ideally based in London, however UK is fine also.

I had to unmatch a sister cause I can tell her breath stinks just by the way she speaks.

Salam
Looking for religious match

How are you all, people of London? 🇬🇧

The three stooges: Helmuth Nyborg, Edward Dutton and Emil Kirkegaard

Salaam to everyone I have noticed most if not all girls /women are just wasting time on this website this is so dam sad highly educated women just bored nothing better to do just feeding the cats so sad

is it healthy to drink bug milk?

we go outside and catch as many bugs as possible in the blender with water it tastes so bad and gives me the worst tummy aches and even my cat drinks it and vomits it i thought bugs were healthy but the more bugs i drink the worse i feel

Hii, I'm looking for someone to talk with me

I discovered a very interesting fact in all the hate comments I received.
Most of the profiles are fake, they don’t have a proper name, and no pictures. They are too afraid to write their name as identity and very much scared to show their face. They use random numbers as their name. It's very easy to detect they are fakers come online to spread hate. Lemme give a pure examples, few months ago I made a post with my graduation pictures. Two random weirdos commented on my post, possibly one was girl and another one was guy, one tagged another, they began to talk to themselves in replies, the guy asked the girl whether she wants to marry me or not. The girl replied ew look he has beard. Later I replied to both of them in my one comment regarding their ridiculous behaviour. Yesterday, I checked my that post again to find their hate comments about my beard, but I noticed their comments were gone. But my replies are still there. So, it's obvious that they are certified fakers, they entertain themselves by spreading hate.

And more interestingly they spread hate comments not only in my posts, in other people's posts as well. Thanks to Jamaa systems, we can easily see people's comments to other posts. It doesn't matter how good or bad post those are, they make hate comments everywhere. If you read their comments carefully, then you can easily detect how much hate and anger they have in their mind and heart. It reveals their background story and upbringings.

Imagine they are the head of a family, then you will never see peace in their family. Without understanding the fact they will keep shouting and complaining. No one listen to no one. Everyone is like, I'm the one who might be heard.

In my previous post, I just asked a simple question, what's the need to block someone just after seeing them. You can say it easily, we are not compatible. Blocking someone straightforward means you have racist mentality, which is totally against our religious belief.

But, maximum comments tried to make me feel down writing my appearance that I am not attractive. First of all, you guys can never make me feel down, I have got extreme level of patience and strong mindset. Nothing can make me feel down and I never get angry. So, you guys are just wasting your time writing long comments. I don't even bother judgment. I just have a simple question for you guys, how do you get a whale amount of time to write comments? I work 16 hours a day, minimum 5 days a week, I don't have that much time like you guys. All I get my off day and break time. And I used my free time wisely. So, again you guys waste your time in my posts.

Finally, I would like to say out loudly, I don't need to be attractive to every girl I meet, I just need to be attractive to One girl only who is really meant for me. And the girl is meant for me will say YES to me based on who I am actually.

And last but not least, I would like to say thank you to few wise commentators (@CjBlackArabian07, @Specialist, @persianprincess,@fleur, @WaitAMoment) whose writing really carries meaning, intelligence and logic. I read your comments in other people's posts as well. Keep up good thoughts