Converts / Reverts

Quran 2:231 says:
“And when you divorce women and they have fulfilled their term, either retain them according to acceptable terms or release them according to acceptable terms, and do not keep them intending harm to transgress [against them]. And whoever does that has certainly wronged himself…”
— Sahih International

Arabic (opening portion):

وَإِذَا طَلَّقْتُمُ ٱلنِّسَآءَ فَبَلَغْنَ أَجَلَهُنَّ فَأَمْسِكُوهُنَّ بِمَعْرُوفٍ أَوْ سَرِّحُوهُنَّ بِمَعْرُوفٍ ۖ وَلَا تُمْسِكُوهُنَّ ضِرَارًۭا لِّتَعْتَدُوا۟

This verse emphasizes fairness, dignity, and avoiding harm or manipulation during divorce.

Quran 30:21:

“And among His signs is that He created for you spouses from among yourselves so that you may find tranquility in them; and He placed between you affection and compassion”

This verse describes marriage as being built on affection, compassion, and peace.

From Quran 33:35:
“Indeed, Muslim men and Muslim women, believing men and believing women … Allah has prepared for all of them forgiveness and a great reward.”

The verse lists men and women side by side in faith, devotion, patience, charity, and righteousness.

Protecting women from harm and injustice

From Quran 2:231:

“Do not retain them intending harm, to transgress against them.”

This verse warns against mistreatment and abuse in relationships.

Quran 4:19 (part of the verse) says:

“And live with them in kindness. For if you dislike them, perhaps you dislike a thing and Allah makes therein much good.”
— Sahih International

Arabic:

وَعَاشِرُوهُنَّ بِٱلْمَعْرُوفِ ۚ فَإِن كَرِهْتُمُوهُنَّ فَعَسَىٰٓ أَن تَكْرَهُوا۟ شَيْـًۭٔا وَيَجْعَلَ ٱللَّهُ فِيهِ خَيْرًۭا كَثِيرًۭا

This verse emphasizes treating wives with fairness, respect, and kindness, even during difficulty or dislike.

Quran 2:216

“Perhaps you dislike something while it is good for you, and perhaps you love something while it is bad for you. And Allah knows, while you know not.”

The verse is often understood as a reminder that immediate feelings—fear, discomfort, loss, uncertainty—do not always reflect what will ultimately benefit a person. Many people quote it during difficult periods to express the idea that wisdom and outcomes may only become clear later.

There are three types of people whom Allah has taken it upon Himself to help: the fighter in the cause of Allah, the mukatab (slave) who desires to purchase his freedom, and the one who marries seeking to chaste (preserve their chastity)."

Reference: Narrated by At-Tirmidzi (No. 1655), graded as Hasan/Sahih (Good/Authentic)

The way you left made me afraid to be loved and to love too deeply again💔

I am looking for a guide to help me improve on my revert journey. Would be nice of they are based in the UAE. Treat me as a complete beginner. I need as much as help as possible.

Someone asked me, “Do you agree to my terms and conditions for getting married?” and I said, “Yeah, sounds good.”

Then he asked, “Would you like to be my wife?” and I replied, “Inshallah.”

Apparently, in his mind, because we were both conscious, agreed verbally, and God was our witness, that meant we were already married 💀 I genuinely had no idea some people considered that a marriage. I thought we were just talking, especially because it was literally the first day I had ever seen him in my life.

Right after that, he tried to hug and kiss me, but I avoided him. Then he got upset and said, “I have the right to love my wife,” and even told me that if I wanted a divorce, I would have to wait three months 👁️👄👁️

So now I’m still wondering… do people actually get married just like that, or was he just mocking me because I’m a convert to Islam? 😭

The taste of deen is more sensed in reverts I donno I might me dumb with your comments,
I learn more deen from my revert boss..

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