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PSA: Never, never, never get gifts for a woman who doesn’t even recognise you as her partner/husband, and refuses to even tell her parents about you.
She will try to manipulate you:
“My #1 love language is gifts. I want to see how much you truly love me, by first seeing how well you can support me before we start an official relationship. After that I will tell my parents about you ☺️”
Do NOT fall for it. She’s a scammer trying to get free stuff. Imagine you do get such things for her - she will give you a nice gf/bf (situationship) experience for a short time after receiving such gifts. But the second you do even the slightest thing that she can use against you which she will be on the lookout for, even as simple as missing her call because you were in the shower, she will use that against you, then block you and disappear.
Assalamulaikum and hi i just one make friend but no one answers me
After nearly ten years and many getting-to-know stages, I have repeatedly noticed that despite mutual expressions of interest, many conversations are suddenly ended without even reaching a personal meeting. Throughout these years, I have always tried to approach the process with sincerity, respect, and serious questions concerning the future.
Of course, caution and legitimate concerns are important. Yet some degree of risk exists everywhere. In my view, when there is mutual interest, the process should not be cut short prematurely, but should at least continue until a mutually agreed and safe meeting takes place. Only then can both sides make a clearer decision on whether to continue or part ways.
It also seems that patience is often lacking, and that during the texting phase one is expected to read minds or suppress personal views and expectations. Differences, compromises, and personal interaction are all part of a healthy process. In reality, most of the learning and growing together takes place after marriage.
From the perspective of akhlaq, adab, and sincerity, a serious courtship should be conducted fairly and respectfully. No one is obligated to marry, but both sides should allow each other the opportunity to genuinely get to know one another in a halal manner before making a final decision.
When al-Mughirah ibn Shu’bah (رضي الله عنه) intended to marry a woman, the Prophet ﷺ said:
“Look at her, for that is more likely to create affection and harmony between you.”
(Tirmidhi 1087, An-Nasa’i 3235 – authentic)
The wisdom behind this Prophetic advice is that decisions should be based on real acquaintance. Exchanging messages or seeing a few pictures cannot replace meeting in person within an Islamically appropriate framework. Only then can both sides make a decision with clarity and mutual understanding, whether to continue together or respectfully part ways.
Do you actually guys prefer to match through the Jamaa feature or through the original feature?
I'm curious and I personally I have not done it.