All things marriage

Put the gender wars aside for a moment and think about when you’re in your 40s and 50s living alone by yourself. Your parents are either passed away or senile; your siblings and all your friends are all married with kids.
Every evening after work, you put the key in to a dark and lonely home.
No one is there to greet you or take you to hospital during emergencies.
No one has prepared a meal for you and your bed feels cold every time you get into it.
You have no legacy to leave behind. No kids to carry on your last name.

Do you realize the urgency of the situation now? Do you still wanna continue with the idiotic gender war narratives and the posts in your gender specific channel? Move past these blind and tired narratives and do something for yourself before it’s too late.

Assalamualaikum 🙂I am Irfan from Pakistan

Make yourself valuable, not cheap, so people rich in heart—not just rich in money—are the ones who earn a place in your life.❤️🌞

I Need a wife!!

Loyal, Honest & Good Human For.Marriage
Please DM Me For a Conversation..

I'm Serious Looking Person
No matter where you from i can commute even England you live!!

Dont said like "Why its so difficult to meet my beloved one? Why there's no woman want me or at least interested to me?". You wanna know something dear? Women find it difficult to be attracted to men because of the men themselve. Let's being respectful to each other!

What questions would you like to hear answers for from real Muzz success couples? 📝

If you guys are looking for a life partner, what qualities—beyond those mentioned in these two hadiths—do you consider essential? Please answer realistically. 🙏🏻

FOR MANS
From Abu Hurairah RA; Rasulullah SAW Said :
"Women are typically married for four reasons: their wealth, their status, their beauty, and their religion. Therefore, choose a woman who is excellent in her religion (her adherence to Islam); otherwise, you will surely be the loser." (HR. Bukhori no. 5090 and Muslim no. 1466)

FOR WOMENS
From Abu Hatim Al Muzanni RA, Rasulullah SAW Said :
"If a man comes to you whose religion and morals you approve of, then marry him. If not, then there will be slander and damage on the face of the earth." (HR. Tirmidhi no. 1085)

Men don't like women who's independent,self sufficient..

They want women who will beg them for everyone they want the ones with the low self-esteem

Still remember, he had a choice... and he didn't choose you... :)

Imagine a scenario where you’re talking to a potential who checks all the boxes, loves talking with you and texting and shares the same values, but you notice a few issues.

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  Firstly, when you and your family go to her family’s home, when she and her mother are talking to your mother, she seems to talk over her own mother when she feels her mother is stuttering or taking too long to make a point

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  Secondly, her father seemed to be enthusiastic about wanting a quick wedding and a relatively small and simple one, but after the fact, she made him “more aware of the circumstances that there should be a large wedding just based on guests” and she wants to take some more time to decide so the next time your father speaks with her father, he’s much more ambivalent and seems to want to punt the discussion to the next time your family and her family meet in person, which is scheduled for next month.

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  Thirdly, while saying she wanted to move forward, you aren’t sure if you heard correctly but she may have offhandedly made a remark that implied she doesn’t find you attractive, saying that Allah puts attraction into people’s hearts after marriage.

How cooked are you in this scenario? What would you do? Would you end it immediately? Are there any questions you could ask just to make sure she’s not disrespectful to her own parents and isn’t just settling for you? Would continuing basically be simp behavior and a sign of a lack of self esteem and self respect? What if besides the above you actually like her? What if she was just trying to help her mom instead of interrupting and speaking for her? In her culture, it’s custom for the bride’s side to pay for most events except for the walima, so even if your family and you generally want a small wedding because of the cost and just to avoid general nazar, if you don’t know any of their guests and you’re not really paying or planning for it, should you care? Could it be possible that maybe she’s just not interested in thinking about attractiveness and romance until marriage and that’s what she meant?

I would personally recommend in this imaginary scenario that you have a phone call to play it out but I wouldn’t even know what to say or ask. I don’t want to start a marriage with a woman straight up disrespecting me by thinking I’m not attractive because that’s totally settling behavior and I’m not someone who can just be settled for, like I’m nothing except second fiddle. And if she doesn’t even respect her own parents, then what can I expect of how she’ll treat me and my family? A big part of me wants to end this tomorrow straight up, but I’ve invested so much into this relationship now and I just want to be done with this search. My mind is pretty made up but I want so badly for this to work, for all this to be a misunderstanding. I get glimpses of feeling like she’s happy to be talking to me, but how do I know it’s sincere? How can I know that she respects me and actually wants to move forward and get married? Ya Allah, make this easy for me!

Genuine question, how come it seems that when a disagreement or miscommunication happens we tend to end things without trying to resolve them? Not sure if its a lack of patience issue or what, but it seems easy to let go instead of make work.