All things marriage

Hi marriage seekers !
Indicate please 😊

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Aslamoalikum good afternoon everyone how are :

I'm looking for a genuine friendship that can lead to a serious relationship and marriage. Respect and honesty are important to me.

Nice view....

One piece of advice you'll never forget? 💭
نصيحة غيرت حياتك؟

So he’s building WITH a baby carrier on his chest!
I’m guessing he a CrossFit athlete from the sneakers and physique, which means he workouts out HARD! No excuses!
Yet, talks cares of his family comprised of 5 children of different ethnicities, 4 girls and 1 boy and knows how to style EVERYONE’S hair!

As an aspiring future adopting parent, I love this and pray Allah sends me a man willing to partner with me in all these goals.
Ameen

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Assalamualaikum everyone,
Anyone is already redha if not meeting his/her spouse? I am as i am 47 years old . A little bit trauma from my last marriage

لا طاعةَ لمخلوقٍ في معصيةِ الخالقِ.
خلاصة حكم المحدث : صحيح
الراوي : النواس بن سمعان الأنصاري | المحدث : الألباني | المصدر : هداية الرواة | الصفحة أو الرقم : 3624
| التخريج : أخرجه البغوي في ((شرح السنة)) (2455)

An-Nawwas b. Sam‘an reported God’s Messenger as saying, “A creature is not to be obeyed when it involves disobedience to the "Creator.”

It is transmitted in Sharh as-sunna.
وَعَنِ النَّوَّاسِ بْنِ سِمْعَانَ قَالَ: قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ: «لَا طَاعَةَ لِمَخْلُوقٍ فِي مَعْصِيَةِ الْخَالِقِ» . رَوَاهُ فِي شَرْحِ السّنة
صَحِيح (الألباني) حكم

If woman make such conditions in Nikkah, that Man will not marry 2nd Woman. It's clearly against Allah's Commandments. He will not follow any of these conditions.

Sahih al-Bukhari 2735
Narrated `Amra:

Aisha said that Barirah came to seek her help in the writing of her emancipation. `Aisha said to her, "If you wish, I will pay your masters (your price) and the wala' will be for me." When Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) came, she told him about it. The Prophet (ﷺ) said to her, "Buy her (i.e. Barirah) and manumit (free) her, for the Wala is for the one who manumits." Then Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) ascended the pulpit and said, "What about those people who stipulate conditions which are not in Allah's Laws? Whoever stipulates such conditions as are not in Allah's Laws, then those conditions are invalid even if he stipulated a hundred such conditions."

حَدَّثَنَا عَلِيُّ بْنُ عَبْدِ اللَّهِ، حَدَّثَنَا سُفْيَانُ، عَنْ يَحْيَى، عَنْ عَمْرَةَ، عَنْ عَائِشَةَ ـ رضى الله عنها ـ قَالَتْ أَتَتْهَا بَرِيرَةُ تَسْأَلُهَا فِي كِتَابَتِهَا، فَقَالَتْ إِنْ شِئْتِ أَعْطَيْتُ أَهْلَكِ وَيَكُونُ الْوَلاَءُ لِي‏.‏ فَلَمَّا جَاءَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم ذَكَّرْتُهُ ذَلِكَ قَالَ النَّبِيُّ صلى الله عليه وسلم ‏"‏ ابْتَاعِيهَا فَأَعْتِقِيهَا، فَإِنَّمَا الْوَلاَءُ لِمَنْ أَعْتَقَ ‏"‏‏.‏ ثُمَّ قَامَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم عَلَى الْمِنْبَرِ فَقَالَ ‏"‏ مَا بَالُ أَقْوَامٍ يَشْتَرِطُونَ شُرُوطًا لَيْسَتْ فِي كِتَابِ اللَّهِ مَنِ اشْتَرَطَ شَرْطًا لَيْسَ فِي كِتَابِ اللَّهِ فَلَيْسَ لَهُ، وَإِنِ اشْتَرَطَ مِائَةَ شَرْطٍ ‏"‏‏.

Because when Allah has permitted Men to have multiple wives upto 4. There there is no option for Women to ask them men to promise or make condition not to marry other woman.

An-Nisa' 4:3

وَاِنْ خِفْتُمْ اَلَّا تُقْسِطُوْا فِي الْيَتٰمٰي فَانْكِحُوْا مَا طَابَ لَكُمْ مِّنَ النِّسَآءِ مَثْنٰي وَثُلٰثَ وَرُبٰعَ ۚ فَاِنْ خِفْتُمْ اَلَّا تَعْدِلُوْا فَوَاحِدَةً اَوْ مَا مَلَكَتْ اَيْمَانُكُمْ ؕ ذٰلِكَ اَدْنٰۤي اَلَّا تَعُوْلُوْا ؕ

Urdu - Muhammad Junagarhi

اگر تمہیں ڈر ہو کہ یتیم لڑکیوں سے نکاح کرکے تم انصاف نہ رکھ سکو گے تو اور عورتوں میں سے جو بھی تمہیں اچھی لگیں تم ان سے نکاح کر لو، دو دو، تین تین، چار چار سے، لیکن اگر تمہیں برابری نہ کر سکنے کا خوف ہو تو ایک ہی کافی ہے یا تمہاری ملکیت کی لونڈی[1] یہ زیاده قریب ہے، کہ (ایسا کرنے سے ناانصافی اور) ایک طرف جھک پڑنے سے بچ جاؤ۔[2]

English - Sahih International

And if you fear that you will not deal justly with the orphan girls, then marry those that please you of [other] women, two or three or four. But if you fear that you will not be just, then [marry only] one or those your right hands possess [i.e., slaves]. That is more suitable that you may not incline [to injustice].

An-Nisa' 4:4

وَاٰتُوا النِّسَآءَ صَدُقٰتِهِنَّ نِحْلَةً ؕ فَاِنْ طِبْنَ لَكُمْ عَنْ شَيْءٍ مِّنْهُ نَفْسًا فَكُلُوْهُ هَنِيْٓــًٔا مَّرِيْٓــًٔا

Urdu - Muhammad Junagarhi

اور عورتوں کو ان کے مہر راضی خوشی دے دو، ہاں اگر وه خود اپنی خوشی سے کچھ مہر چھوڑ دیں تو اسے شوق سے خوش ہو کر کھا لو۔

English - Sahih International

And give the women [upon marriage] their [bridal] gifts[1] graciously. But if they give up willingly to you anything of it, then take it in satisfaction and ease.[2]

English - Tafsir Ibn Kathir (Abridged)

Protecting the Property of the Orphans
Allah commands that the property of the orphans be surrendered to them in full when they reach the age of adolescence, and He forbids using or confiscating any part of it. So He said;

وَلاَ تَتَبَدَّلُواْ الْخَبِيثَ بِالطَّيِّبِ

(and do not exchange (your) bad things for (their) good ones;) Said bin Al-Musayyib and Az-Zuhri commented, "Do not substitute a weak animal of yours for a fat animal (of the orphans)." Ibrahim An-Nakhai and Ad-Dahhak commented, "Do not give something of bad quality for something of good quality." As-Suddi said, "One of them (caretakers of orphans) would take a fat sheep from the orphan's property and put in its place, a weak sheep of his, saying, A sheep for a sheep.' He would also take a good Dirham and exchange it for a fake Dirham, saying, A Dirham for a Dirham."' Allah's statement,

وَلاَ تَأْكُلُواْ أَمْوَلَهُمْ إِلَى أَمْوَلِكُمْ

(and devour not their substance to your substance.) means, do not mix them together so that you eat up both, as Mujahid, Sa`id bin Jubayr, Muqatil bin Hayyan, As-Suddi and Sufyan bin Hassin stated. Allah said,

إِنَّهُ كَانَ حُوباً كَبِيراً

(Surely, this is a great sin. ), a major and substantial sin, according to Ibn Abbas. This was also reported from Mujahid, Ikrimah, Sa`id bin Jubayr, Al-Hasan, Ibn Sirin, Qatadah, Muqatil bin Hayyan, Ad-Dahhak, Abu Malik, Zayd bin Aslam and Abu Sinan. The meaning above is: adding their property to your property is a grave sin and a major mistake, so avoid it.
The Prohibition of Marrying Female Orphans Without Giving a Dowry
Allah said,

وَإِنْ خِفْتُمْ أَلاَّ تُقْسِطُواْ فِى الْيَتَـمَى فَانكِحُواْ مَا طَابَ لَكُمْ مِّنَ النِّسَآءِ مَثْنَى

(And if you fear that you shall not be able to deal justly with the orphan girls, then marry (other) women of your choice, two) Allah commands, when one of you is the caretaker of a female orphan and he fears that he might not give her a dowry that is suitable for women of her status, he should marry other women, who are plenty as Allah has not restricted him. Al-Bukhari recorded that `A'ishah said, "A man was taking care of a female orphan and he married her, although he did not desire to marry her. That girl's money was mixed with his, and he was keeping her portion from her. Afterwards, this Ayah was revealed about his case;

وَإِنْ خِفْتُمْ أَلاَّ تُقْسِطُواْ

(If you fear that you shall not be able to deal justly)" Al-Bukhari recorded that Urwah bin Az-Zubayr said that he asked A'ishah about the meaning of the statement of Allah,

وَإِنْ خِفْتُمْ أَلاَّ تُقْسِطُواْ فِى الْيَتَـمَى

(If you fear that you shall not be able to deal justly with the orphan girls.) She said, "O my nephew! This is about the orphan girl who lives with her guardian and shares his property. Her wealth and beauty may tempt him to marry her without giving her an adequate dowry which might have been given by another suitor. So, such guardians were forbidden to marry such orphan girls unless they treated them justly and gave them the most suitable dowry; otherwise they were ordered to marry woman besides them." `A'ishah further said, "After that verse, the people again asked the Messenger of Allah ﷺ (about marriage with orphan girls), so Allah revealed the Ayah,

وَيَسْتَفْتُونَكَ فِى النِّسَآءِ

(They ask your instruction concerning the women..) 4:127." She said, "Allah's statement in this Ayah,

وَتَرْغَبُونَ أَن تَنكِحُوهُنَّ

(yet whom you desire to marry) 4:127 refers to the guardian who does not desire to marry an orphan girl under his supervision because she is neither wealthy nor beautiful. The guardians were forbidden to marry their orphan girls possessing property and beauty without being just to them, as they generally refrain from marrying them (when they are neither beautiful nor wealthy)."
The Permission to Marry Four Women
Allah's statement,

مَثْنَى وَثُلَـثَ وَرُبَاعَ

(two or three, or four), means, marry as many women as you like, other than the orphan girls, two, three or four. We should mention that Allah's statement in another Ayah,

Never lower your standards in choosing a man who will be an imam of the family.

There are two most important criteria: the salah and his work.

Two other important criteria are his educational background and his physique appearance.