All things marriage

First make your self happy then think about the rest of people
Keep life in ur control
Don’t keep everything above you head 🫶🏻🌺

Good Morning everyone 🥰😍

Forget not your morning Adhkar and read a portion of the Qur'an today 🫵🏼

May Allah almighty continue to protect us all 🤲🏼🙏🏼

Promises tell you what someone hopes to be. Consistency tells you who they really are.

The painful part isn't just the broken promise..it's the broken trust. When someone repeatedly says, "I'll always be here," "I'll marry you," or "I'll never hurt you," then does the opposite, it can make you question your own judgment.

A better indicator than promises is consistent actions over time. Anyone can make beautiful promises, but a trustworthy person consistently matches their words with their behavior.

Until it's done tell none,that's low ❤️

Im finding partner for permenant, age around 22-25/26 i will do my best hoping she is the open minded type and i expected we contribute fairly, anything happen stick together settling the problem and not fighting ourselves (im not good looking) i wanted to get to know first if everything was okay i will save money for marriage and future

Partner vs. Painkiller: The Difference Between Connection and Consumption ⚡️

Let's stop romanticizing relationships as "healing clinics" where your partner is expected to fix your past. When we do that, we aren't looking for love; we are looking for the privatization of emotional labor. We actively avoid the hard, individual work of self-healing and instead outsource our childhood wounds to our partners. 💔🛡️

There is a massive structural difference between choosing a Partner and hunting for a Painkiller to sedate your childhood trauma:

💊 The Painkiller (The Surrogate Parent): You are not looking for an equal peer. You are extracting unconditional care to fill the void of an absent "Mama" or "Baba." You expect them to absorb your triggers, tolerate your emotional dysregulation, and rescue you. You treat them like a parent because you refuse to do the labor of reparenting yourself.
🤝 The True Partner: You recognize them as an individual with their own sovereignty, boundaries, and history. You don't expect them to carry your baggage. Instead, you actively build a reciprocal "Safe Space" where both of you share the emotional weight, rather than one consuming the other to escape discomfort.

Stop consuming people as coping mechanisms. A partner is a co-creator of a shared life, not a therapeutic sedative. 🧘‍♂️✨

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الشريك بجد ولا مسكّن للصدمات؟ الفرق بين السلكان والاستهلاك العاطفي ⚡️

خلينا نلغي فكرة إن "الحب بيشفي كل الجروح" بالشكل الرومانسي المتزوق ده. لما بنعمل كده، إحنا مش بندور على علاقة؛ إحنا بنهتم بـ "خصخصة العبء العاطفي". بنهرب من المسؤولية الفردية لعلاج جروحنا، وبنقرر نرمي صدمات طفولتنا على شريك حياتنا عشان يشيلها هو بالنيابة عنا. 💔🛡️

فيه فرق شاسع بين إنك تختار شريك حياة (Partner) بجد، وبين إنك بتدور على "مسكن عاطفي" يخدر وجع صدمات طفولتك:

💊 المسكن العاطفي (بديل ماما وبابا): إنت مش بتدور على حد مساوي ليك عاطفياً؛ إنت بتدور على كفيل يتبناك. مستني منه حب غير مشروط، ومستحمل عصبيتك وتقلباتك من غير ما تعمل مجهود عشان تتغير. بتعامله كأنه إسفنجة لغضبك وصدماتك لمجرد إنك هربان من مسؤولية مواجهة نفسك وتشافي طفلك الداخلي.
🤝 الشريك الحقيقي: هو حد عارف إن العلاقة مش مصحة نفسية. إنت وهو بني آدمين ناضجين، كل واحد فيكم مسؤول عن تصرفاته ومستعد يواجه جروحه بنفسه. بتعملوا مع بعض مساحة متبادلة "الدار أمان"، فيها أخد وعطا ومشاركة حقيقية، مش طرف بيغرق وطرف تاني مطلوب منه يفضل ينقذه على حساب سلامته النفسية.

بلاش تستهلكوا الناس كـ مسكنات عاطفية وكوبنج ميكانيزم (Coping mechanism). الشريك هو رفيق رحلة بتبني معاه خطوة بخطوة، مش بنادول عاطفي بتاخده لما ماضيك يوجعك. 🧘‍♂️✨

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