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Y'all probably don't know me enough, if at all, to even hate me, so let's change that, shall we? 🤔

I seen a lot of y'all talk about mahr, so let's talk now.

IF you think the mahr is supposed to be some contingency/back-up plan for divorce or financial hardship and what not, think again. If you were wise and saved whatever symbolic amount it was for a rainy day, good for you, you wicked smaht.

And yes, you're 💯 allowed to yave your demands and all, and we pray you find your perfectly well-suited high-earning match, but as hell-bent as we may be on demanding the letter of the law be upheld, we tend to forget the spirit of the sunnah, and how it is supposed to facilitate ease across the board, including in matters of marriage.

The mahr is an obligatory, symbolic, honorary gift, signifying a man's readiness to take on financial responsibility for his wife. It is neither a financial contingency nor a punitive deterrent, bc the woman can do whatever she wants with the mahr and she is still religiously entitled to full maintenance and provision - food, clothing, shelter, creature comforts etc, and in case of divorce, she still gets all that during the waiting period.

This is not to ignore the reality that divorces happen, and can and often do get very nasty, very costly, very quick, and the woman often gets the short end of the stick. Is it a good idea for her to have her own contingencies in place, some combination of degree/job/investments/assests etc? Hard to argue against it. But you can't operate from a position of fear and make the mahr excessively prohibitive from the get go, and then wonder why things don't seem to make it to the next stage, why the nikkafication ain't happenizing.

At the end of the day, it's 💯 your right, your mahr, your marriage, your life, but do factor in the letter of the law, the spirit of the sunnah, today's financial realities and how they impact you as a potential couple - factor a complete, pragmatic, mutually beneficial, meet-in-the-middle, cost-benefit analysis into your decisions, not some self-sabaotaging whimsical fugazi based on catastrophization, or it's just one of those "the number one leading cause of divorce is marriage" type things, and nobody wins, except shayton and the rest of our enemies.

Moderation is key. Have key, will unlock door.

May Allaah SWT bless y'all's efforts to keep it halaal and facilitate ease in all matters of donya and aakhirah.

Wolverhampton

Does anyone know anything about the supposed Muslim roommate finding app called MuzMates? I couldn't find it in the Google Play Store.

I seem to have been only like a boy playing on the seashore, and diverting myself in now and then finding a smoother pebble or a prettier shell than ordinary, whilst the great ocean of truth lay all undiscovered before me.

One, remember to look up at the stars and not down at your feet. Two, never give up work. Work gives you meaning and purpose and life is empty without it.

Netherlands ez win 3-1 Dumfries masterclass

This Katsu curry was bussin’

Germany is outttt!!!

Cant wait for my annual Morocco trip. Even though i have been so relaxed this year while not working. I still deserve a holiday. Bring on the beach. The mirleft trips. The deathly heat in the village home. the neighbours chicken waking me up at the crack of dawn. The hundred kisses and “labas. Kolchi labas” from every auntie outside the house. Playing ludo and ronda. Inna’s homemade food esp the pizza and kefta. Speaking bengali to confuse everyone out there but its my sisters way of ranting without anyone knowing. Five additional brothers I never asked for doing my own brothers dirty work on his behalf. Which is torturing me.

Cant wait. September could not come fast enough!