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The amount of lustful men on this app is crazy… and you wanna know what’s even more crazy? It’s gotten worse since I’ve started wearing a hijab 😩
Also why don’t you men read profiles !!!! Please read it so you don’t waste peoples time
Some of us don’t wanna be on here till we’re 40 years old lol

The best way to deal with phoniness is not to be the audience for their theatrics 😉🎭

أفضل طريقة للتعامل مع الزيف هي ألا تكون جمهوراً لعروضهم المسرحية 😉🎭

ASHABI ADE: THE SISTER I NEVER AGREED WITH BUT COULD NEVER DO WITHOUT, BENEATH THE ARGUMENT WAS ALWAYS PURE LOVE❤️🔥 (My Dad Thought I Needed Patience. My Sister Thought I Hated Her 😂)

Have you ever had a sibling that you genuinely love with all your heart, but if both of you stay together for too long, World War III is inevitable🤣. The kind of sibling that can annoy you to the point of madness😫, yet the mere thought of something bad happening to them makes your heart ache.
💞You know they love you.
💞You know you love them.
Yet somehow, peace between both of you is always hanging by a thread.

My immediate younger sister and I are exactly like that. Growing up, we never really agreed on anything. We are complete opposites. I am very disciplined, naturally authoritative as the first daughter, calculative, and someone who values structure and order. I value my personal space, think before I act, and can be a bit too serious for my own good. I like things done properly and I'm not exactly known for overlooking nonsense. My sister, on the other hand, is loud, energetic, fearless, outspoken, dramatic when she wants to be, and wears her emotions on her sleeves. She's the type of person who will walk into a room and her presence will immediately be felt. She says exactly what's on her mind without overthinking it and never backs down when she believes she's right.
💞Where I am cautious, she is impulsive.
💞Where I am calculating, she follows her heart.
💞Where I prefer diplomacy, she prefers confrontation.
💞Where I value order and structure, she can comfortably thrive in chaos. Chai😫 such a trouble maker

Now imagine putting someone like her together with someone like me. Disaster😫!Whenever we're under the same roof for too long, friction is almost guaranteed. She thinks I'm too controlling. I think she's too stubborn. She loves breathing space. I believe in correcting every little thing. Countless of times she has looked me straight in the eye and said: "I know you hate me." And I would just be wondering how she arrived at that conclusion. Because the truth is, I don't hate her🤷‍♀️ In fact, when I think about it, she's been my cheerleader from day one.

Looking back now, it's no surprise we spent a good part of our lives either getting along beautifully or preparing for our next disagreement.I remember our days at Ansar-Ud-Deen Junior Girls School, Odo Eran Itire, Lagos. Everyone who knew me then knew I was a very serious student. Not because I was naturally quiet, but because my father was a disciplinarian of the highest order. That man could appear in school at any given time without notice. All the teachers in the staff room to the cleaners, security officers knew me because of him. I was literally schooling under close supervision. So I was always careful, watchful, and trying to stay out of trouble.

Then my sister joined the school.
Omo...🙉

The entire school got confused🤣🤣🤣. I had actually begged my dad not to bring her to my school because, as usual, we were not seeing eye to eye and I didn't want her anywhere around me.

My father refused😭.
And that was how my personal bodyguard was enrolled. ASHABI ADE🔥

My sister would confront anybody she felt was trying to bully, intimidate, or oppress me in her head. One day during a class election in JSS, my class teacher asked three of us contestants, including myself, to step outside while the voting was going on. As I stood outside the classroom waiting, my sister somehow spotted me through her classroom window.

Before anybody could blink👀 Vooooom💃!!! She ran out of her own class straight to my classroom and shouted: "WHO IS LOOKING FOR MY SISTER'S TROUBLE?!" "You people should not touch my sister ooo!"

The funniest part? Immediately she noticed my class teacher standing there, all her confidence disappeared. 🤣🤣🤣 OLE OMO. Her voice suddenly reduced. My teacher had already heard about her reputation around the school and immediately instructed her to kneel down. Even while kneeling, she refused to keep quiet.

ASHABI ADE:
"Sir, my sister is outside. They want to bully her!"
"Sir, my sister is outside!"

My teacher eventually shouted:
"KEEP QUIET!"😂😂😂

After the election ended, we were all called back into the classroom. Then the result was announced. I had won as the new Class Captain. My sister immediately forgot she was serving punishment. She jumped up, carried me, and shouted:

"YESSSS! MY SISTER WON!"
"You people are olodo!" 😱😱😱

Then she started pointing at some of the students she had already labelled as my enemies. I repeat also in her fish brain 😫

"See them! Shebi na only fight una sabi! My sister is the Class Captain!"

Mind you, these people were her seniors. That day, they dealt with my sister mercilessly after school ehnnn she saw shege banza. Only for my class teacher to rescue her and took her to his office.
Till today, whenever I remember that incident, I laugh🤣🤣🤣. This same sister of mine would bring leftovers from her lunch break to my class because she felt I should eat too. I remembered during my undergraduate days, she would send me feeding allowance from her savings despite not having a job. Yet let us stay together under one roof for one week🙉 cold war, arguments, misunderstandings and silence🤣🤣🤣

Growing up, she regularly reported me to my dad for being hostile towards her. My dad would always tell me: "Abebi, you need to be more diplomatic with your younger siblings." Maybe he was right🤷‍♀️. Maybe he saw what I couldn't see, maybe love doesn't always come wrapped in sweetness or some of the deepest forms of love are hidden beneath arguments, stubbornness, complaints, and years of pretending not to care. The truth is, I don't hate her🥰 I never have. I just find it harder to overlook her excesses than I do with my other siblings.

The funny thing is, despite all our disagreements, if anything happens to either of us, the other person immediately forgets every quarrel. My sister is the same person who checks up on me when I'm sick, sends messages to make sure I'm okay, recommends every drug she thinks can help, and constantly asks about my health. And me? I can't stand hearing that she's in pain, struggling, or going through difficulties. It genuinely affects me, and my first instinct is always to help like a mother hen that I am💯

Her birthday is on the 16th of June, and today I found myself reflecting on our childhood memories and our strange relationship. We've never been the "best friend" type of sisters.

🥰But she has always been my sister
🥰 My defender.
🥰 My secret supporter.
🥰 My cheerleader.

If life has taught me anything, it's that some of the deepest forms of love don't always come wrapped in sweetness. Sometimes they're hidden beneath arguments, stubbornness, complaints, misunderstandings, and years of saying,

ABEBI ADE:

"GET OUT FROM MY ROOM!!"
"WILL YOU KEEP QUIET!!"
"GET LOST!!"
"WHY ARE YOU THIS ANNOYING"
"WITCH COME HERE ooo"
"DON'T WASTE MY TIME" 🤣🤣🤣

ASHABI ADE:
"IT'S YOUR MOTHER THAT'S A WITCH"
"SHEBI I WAS JUST JOKING WITH YOU NAWWW"
"WICKED GIRL"
"I KNOW YOU HATE ME AND I DO NOT CARE"
"SOMEBODY CAN NOT TALK TO YOU AGAIN"
"WILL YOU EAT JOLLOF RICE?"
"TAKE I GIVE YOU THIS LIPGLOSS, PERFUME AND TOTE BAG, IF YOU DON'T WANT GIVE ME BACK BEFORE YOU SAY WHO SENT ME"

May Allah bless her new age abundantly. May He grant her good health, long life upon righteousness, peace of mind, happiness, barakah in all she does, and make her among His most beloved servants. May every silent prayer in her heart be answered with goodness beyond her expectations. May Allah protect her from every evil, surround her with His mercy, and make her successful in this life and in the Hereafter. Ameen🤲❤️

So tell me🤷‍♀️
Do you also have that one sibling you can argue with all day, but would move mountains for without thinking twice?

#Allahumabarik
#Abebiade

There’s a rule I learned from my experiences with people: expect the worst from them until you deal with them. If the opposite happens, you’ll be pleasantly surprised.
if what you expected happens, you won't be upset or shocked.

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fr though, this is my last world cup unmarried

it's coming home!! 😂😂

Beautiful ladies, handsome men -when someone takes a few days to text back, does it usually mean they're busy, uninterested, or keeping their options open? In your experience, who is more likely to be doing that?

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Here we Go again someone who must be interested in the sister I just commented about because they think they can just come at me with low IQ argument and things are going to win.

Never really have to resort to low IQ arguments to course anyone who knows me knows I'm always adding to a conversation constructively and brutally honestly but only troll people who are actually clear trolls

Apparently this brother thinks he knows enough to be speaking to me when he doesn't

When his first comment is considered a low IQ arguments

Technically anytime someone starts off a comment with an insult and then trying to give what appears to be advice like you shouldn't have commented then it's considered a low IQ argument

Not to mention that the entire argument is destroyable and I could very easily and logically destroyed

But just know that if your first comment to something that I post is something like this

"i ain’t reading allat but this is ur wife we’re talking bout and u don’t wanna go out of ur way for her? lmao if u think ur circumstance gives u an exception then maybe u shouldn’t have answered her question bc her question wasn’t catered for ur special situation"

This proves several things

One you do not have the high cognitive abilities to understand the minimalist and survivalist mindset or neurodiversions and secondly it also impact the fact that you're trying to insinuate that me answering a question with my honest opinion and then getting accused of hating women and having a low emotional intelligence he's like my fault simply

But then when all you do is just throw non-stop insults into it course I'm going to troll you back but at least I was more respectful than this person

Call narcissistic controlling red flags

Not only could he not add anything constructive he had to start off the. Big conversation with an insult I'm very logical and analytical everything that I said is well within reason as

I find funny he's like oh this is the whole red pill mentality actually no it's not it's actually survival minimalist mentality combined with neurodivergence needs

I'm very consistent in the facts where I mentioned my neurodivergence in that a large percentage of my disability very specific select status skills something is Brothers incapable of understanding cuz you know he couldn't f****** bother to read anything

He said that I was projecting my trauma on to women completely ignoring the entirety of my post I was calling a woman out a sister who straight up you're my minimalist and survivalist mentality again though she followed me or probably aware that I have mentioned that I have a minimalist mentality several different times throughout my time on us and I've been very consistent with that everything that I mentioned under the list of things that I mentioned were consistent with a minimalist mentality and neurodiversions

I had to set very strict boundaries for my own mental health for my own survival at the same time I respect other people's boundaries

I don't need to rush to low IQ arguments in order to try to win an argument or make someone feel bad you're going to be rude to me no guess what I'm going to be rude right back doesn't mean I'm angry it just means I mirror your behavior and if you don't like it then don't do it to other people it's as simple as that .

Wait it's even better he even says and I quotes nothing in your thesis is high IQ this is demonstrating that either he's just straight up trying to be abusive and manipulative he doesn't know the difference between someone's personal requirements for their mental and physical needs over a literal thesis

But here's a kicker when you do like this guy and you straight up admit that you not going to read everything that someone wrote and then State they probably shouldn't be answering something if they believe their situation gives them an exemption no someone who is out of tune with reality

Because that also doesn't just demonstrate what I mentioned of both but it also demonstrates that one you don't understand how Islam works Islam only requires the man to provide the necessities food shelter water and medical if needed it says nothing about all this other luxurious stuff secondly it also implies that you apparently don't seem to understand how the internet works because when someone post the question but does not give a limitation to who can answer it anyone is free to answer that question she said men only it did not say men with disabilities who have strict situations that make it to where these things would not be beneficial for the relationship not to mention it's on a public platform where anyone can answer it so telling someone oh you probably couldn't have answered it

Get the whole red pill argument is also incredibly interesting when you're applying the red pill argument does something that cannot be applied to the red pill argument

But yeah he claims he knows what he's talking about when clearly he doesn't

I feel like I'm going on a Merry-Go-Round but yeah here's the the brother. I do apologize that they're duplicates for some reason or another my phone's been glitching and making duplicates of some things and not others and I don't know why though it is about time I replace the one I got I just haven't had the time to get to MetroPCS to do it

In amend themto the thing because this only goes to show my point further

"⁩ a woman wrote a post asking a general question that applies to the general person, and u, someone who is “ neurodivergent” and has “PTSD” felt compelled to comment and not explain u have these conditions. u expect people to assume these things about u? lmao seems like u don’t understand how the internet works"