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Uncomfortable Truths

I know many of us are probably tired of hearing about the Discord scandal, but after reading yesterday’s posts, I couldn’t ignore what I see as a glaring <CUSTOM_BOLD>double standard within our Jamaa community.

As one of the sisters rightly mentioned, every single one of us is in desperate need of Allah’s mercy. None of us has been promised Jannah, and none of us should walk around as though we have a golden ticket.

So here’s my question.

Why is it that one person can say deeply offensive things about the disabled community under the guise of “rage bait,” apologise afterwards, and then be embraced because people believe he has changed?

Yet others are told they are beyond redemption, even when they apologise?

Who are we to judge the sincerity of someone’s repentance or what is in their heart? We are not Allah. If we believe in tawbah, then surely we have to leave the acceptance of that tawbah to Him.

Shouldn’t everyone be given the opportunity to change?

Or is redemption only available to those who are popular?

Perhaps the “rage bait” post about people with severe disabilities being used for experimentation and that they are barely human, only affected a small number of people on this app because, alhamdulillah, many of us have been blessed with good health and have never had to experience life with a disability. It can be difficult to truly understand someone else’s pain when you’ve never lived it.

I’ve only spoken to a small number of people with disabilities on this platform. To be honest, I don’t even like using the word “disability,” but for the sake of this discussion, it is what it is.

Losing my hearing later in life completely changed my perspective. It made me appreciate countless blessings that I had once taken for granted and reminded me just how quickly life can change. None of us knows what Allah has written for tomorrow.

The Discord messages were undeniably wrong. Hurtful things were said, and nobody should defend that.

But where do we draw the line?

Why is one incident remembered as a mistake someone has grown from, while another becomes a permanent label attached to people forever?

Two wrongs never make a right.

Everyone involved will answer to Allah for what they said and did. But what genuinely confuses me is the completely different standard being applied. One person is almost celebrated on this platform after apologising, while others are treated as though they’ve committed crimes far beyond what actually happened. That inconsistency is difficult to ignore.

I remember the anonymous post that was made last year about disabled people, yet I don’t remember seeing the same level of outrage.

So I have to ask…

Do the feelings of disabled people matter less?

Does popularity determine whose pain deserves defending?

Because from where I’m standing, the response doesn’t seem to be based on principle. It seems to depend on who the people involved are.

I’ve had vile things said about me on this platform. Horrible comments were even made about my children. Only a small handful of people spoke up.

<CUSTOM_BOLD>Maybe I’m just not “cool enough.”

<CUSTOM_BOLD>Maybe I’m not part of the popular crowd.

And that’s okay.

I’d rather be unpopular while speaking against hypocrisy than stay silent simply because it’s easier.

As I said on another post, please don’t think you are better than those who were exposed simply because your sins are different, or because Allah, in His immense mercy, chose to conceal yours. The fact that our faults remain hidden is a blessing, not a badge of superiority.

At the end of the day, who you choose to forgive is entirely your decision. Nobody is obligated to reconcile with someone who has hurt them. My point isn’t to tell anyone who they must forgive. I’m simply pointing out what appears to be a double standard when it comes to who is offered forgiveness and who isn’t.

If we’re going to call people to accountability, then let’s do it consistently. If we’re going to believe in forgiveness, then let’s apply it consistently.
If we’re going to speak about justice, then let’s make sure it isn’t influenced by popularity.

May Allah guide every one of us, soften our hearts, help us be fair in our judgments, and grant sincere repentance to all who seek it.

Ameen. 🤲🏻

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Trust Allah in every situation, for His plan is always better than ours.
Be patient, because every hardship comes with ease.
Keep your heart connected to Allah through prayer and gratitude.
May Allah guide us all to the straight path and grant us peace. 🤲

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i came across this hadith and i thought i would share😭

سبحان الله{subhanallah}

our prophet ﷺ said:

‘a believer will be brought close to his rab on the day of qiyamah and enveloping him in his mercy, he سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى will make him confess his sins by saying:

do you remember doing this sin and this sin?’

he will reply: ‘my rab, i remember.’

then he سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى will say:

i covered it up for you in the life of world,

and I forgive it for you today.’

then the record of his good deeds will be handed to him”

📖📚 [bukhari and muslim] 📖📚

i’m literally in tears 😭 the mercy of Allāh سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى is so so immense

Is it normal to have a great convo and swap social media acc then get blocked the next day!
There’s something wrong with people minds or everyone here having trust issues ?

I hope anyone who ghosts someone ends up getting hurt as well 🥺

Rasulullah SAW Said♥️:☝️

"Whoever says,

سبحان الله وبحمده

“Subhan Allah wa bihamdihi”

100X a day,

will be forgiven all his sins even if they were as much as the foam of the sea.

📖📚 (Sahih Bukhari) 📖📚

What are you waiting for?

The way I would describe how people search on online dating/marriage apps is based on putting people in boxes.

When we do this, we think we're searching for someone compatible but that is far from the truth.

The very things which are often not deal breakers or not that essential for a successful marriage are the very things most people tend to focus on.

Age Critera
If you're aged 20-30, you're desired. If you slightly over 30, you're outside the limit and will not be considered no matter how compatible you may be. We judge others superficially on age because it's easy to base it on this and helps us filter our search but age is not everything and not an indication things won't work.

Race Critera
If you're European or Middle Eastern, you are highly desired. This is mainly based on how they look rather than actually having a preference for their cultural roots. Equally someone could be born and raised in the west but because they are from a certain culture, they automatically rule them out based on stereotypes ie people from this culture are strict, not that religious etc. We shouldn't base it entirely on culture. Religion is what binds two people and helps sustain a successful marriage.

Interests Criteria
Two people don't need to share the same interest yet we find any reason to dismiss them. Just because they don't like soccor doesn't mean you can't have a meaningful relationship or marriage.

What's important is mutual respect, common goals, attraction built on character, persona, their energy and to a lesser extent, their looks. Yes looks are important but not the main criteria.