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Feeling overwhelmed by a halal marriage potential who won't let go, how do i end it for good? I need some perspective on a situation that is stressing me out. About a year ago, a friend approached me saying a guy was interested in me for marriage. I deactivated my marriage apps years ago, so this was a traditional introduction. From the start, i made it very clear to him. I am not ready for romance right now, i want to take things slow as friends first, and see if we connect with the ultimate intention of marriage. We've only met twice in person and barely ever speak on the phone. Red flags started on our very first meeting. He had lied about his height over text, telling me he was 5'8". I am 5'5" myself, and he was visibly shorter than me by a few inches. This immediately stood out to me because my ex-spouse was actually a foot and a half shorter than me, so height and honesty about it are sensitive points for me. Still, i let it slide initially because he is genuinely a nice person, really cares about me, and seemed very honest and pleasant to talk to. However, things quickly got overwhelming. He became obsessed very fast, bombing me with intense kindness and gifts, which stressed me out. I also realized our personalities clash completely. I am naturally a quiet, bubbly person. He talks constantly. No matter what i say, he has to hijack the conversation with a story about himself or someone he knows. It feels like he never just listens, and sometimes we just want someone to listen. Because of the stress, i distanced myself and stopped the daily texting. On our second meeting, i sat him down and explained openly that i don't want to hold him back, he is free to look elsewhere, and I might not be the right person. He completely ignored the hint. He told me he's happy to stay and wait. The truth is, i feel absolutely zero connection. He is completely not my type and does not align with my personality. He has already told his entire family about me, while i haven't told a soul in mine because I'm not invested. Even though i am actively refusing to meet up, distancing myself, and not texting, he keeps messaging saying he will wait for me until I'm ready. Because he truly is a good person who genuinely cares, i find myself second-guessing everything. I sometimes wonder if i am jeopardising a good thing because of my own emotions and my very strong connection to my independence and solitude. I deeply enjoy my own space, and i don't know if i'm pushing him away because of that, or if we genuinely just aren't a match. How do i navigate these feelings, and if i do need to end it, how do i make him understand that waiting won't change anything without being unnecessarily cruel? 😉🫰🏼
First summer here, didn’t know the indecency would be this bizarre😱.
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🔴 "Half of one's deen" (religion).
This principle originates from a famous statement of the Prophet Muhammad ﷺ (or widely attributed early scholars), which translates to: "When a person marries, he has fulfilled half of his religion, so let him fear Allah regarding the remaining half."
🟣 The Purpose and Blessings of Marriage:
The Quran describes marriage as a divine sign intended to bring emotional and spiritual tranquility to both partners.
♦️1. Comfort and Mercy:
"And among His signs is that He created for you mates from among yourselves, that you may find tranquility in them; and He placed between you affection and mercy." (Surah Ar-Rum 30:21)
♦️2. Mutual Protection:
Spouses are described as garments for one another, symbolizing closeness, protection, and intimacy (Surah Al-Baqarah 2:187).
♦️3. Mutual Consent:
Marriage requires the free will and mutual agreement of both parties (Surah An-Nisa 4:29).
♦️4. The Mahr (Dowry):
A mandatory bridal gift or financial settlement must be given by the groom to the bride as a token of commitment (Surah An-Nisa
♦️5. Financial Assistance:
"And marry the unmarried among you... If they should be poor, Allah will enrich them from His bounty." (Surah An-Nur 24:32).
If you’re from a broken home like me and you deal with a lot of emotional baggage from your parents but it’s not a issue because she’s your mum and you just do nothing because it’s been happening you’re whole life and it’s not healthy to other people but it’s normal for you
That’s what boat I’m in but I would never get married to someone who would make my life harder like arguing with me or verbal abuse I would never put up with that
Gentleman.
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"If a man wants to marry a woman, he will show it though his actions"
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