Divorced Muslims

I’m New to Jamaa. Looking to make
New friends & hopefully connect with like-minded people, bi iznillah!

After so many years the news of my divorce has leaked at work. It feels as if the divorce happened only yesterday and seeing everyone whisper about it hurts. But I guess that just how corporate culture works people love to criticize you from afar but nobody actually comes up to check on you or ask the truth

I didn’t know why people here still single lol

This isn't toxic. This isn't insecurity. This is called having standards.

And there's a difference between a secure, confident woman and a doormat — and that difference lives exactly here. In knowing which situations deserve your comfort and which ones deserve your boundary.

Because a man who genuinely respects you doesn't need to be told why maintaining close friendships with women who want him is a problem. He already knows. He already felt it. And he already made adjustments before you even had to bring it up — because your peace mattered more to him than any situationship he was casually maintaining on the side.

The ones who call you insecure for having these standards are usually the ones who need you not to have them. A secure man in a committed relationship isn't fighting for his right to stay close to his ex, entertain a girl who's openly waiting for her shot, or maintain friendships with women who disrespect his partner. That's not friendship. That's a backup plan with better lighting.

You're not controlling him by having boundaries. You're simply communicating what a relationship with you looks like. And any man who finds basic loyalty too much to ask is telling you everything about what he was planning to do anyway.

The right one won't make you feel crazy for knowing your worth.

He'll match it. 🤍👑

@Shobnom11
Miss lreply mee!
Its really important

I've watched this up close. I've seen strong marriages fall apart over pride and small disrespect, and I've seen ordinary ones survive because the husband decided to be the safe place first. I'm still learning, but this is what life has shown me so far.
My responsibility as a husband isn't about being the loudest voice in our house. It's about being the safest place my wife lands. I learned love isn't a speech I give once. It's the quiet proof I live every day. Listening when I'm exhausted, guarding her name when she's not in the room, carrying the pressure without ever making her feel like she's the weight ,I used to think respect was something you demand. I was wrong. I earn it by giving honor first. When I actually see my wife, not just the dinner or the laundry or the list of things she does, but her, as strong, as beautiful, as irreplaceable, she softens. She doesn't have to fight to be seen, so she has more love left to give me. And in return, she starts seeing me the same way. Not perfect, but hers. And great, because I choose to be great for her , I believe it's a circle. I give love without keeping score. She gives me appreciation without fear. I show her she's great before I even say the word, and she calls me great back, not because I forced it, but because she feels safe enough to admire me. That's my job. To start the circle, and to protect it especially on the hard days.
M.H.F

Hi, please connect Divorced women for marriage...seeious marriage intentions.

Heyyyyy.

It's funny...

We're all strangers here, scrolling past each other's lives in a few seconds.

Yet one day, one of those strangers could become the person you tell everything to, make dua with, and grow old beside.

Life is weird like that. ❤️🤲✨

It is during our darkest moments that we must focus to see the light