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How would you deal with this, respond or block?
He is a first cousin to my second cousins who I am very close to (him from one parents side, I from the other parents side). His ex wife is a distant cousin of mine too, although we have been out of contact for many years. I've recognised him straight away, not sure if he actually has connected the dots before sending over a compliment... do I take the polite route and reply saying I don't believe we are compatible (I'm also speaking to someone right now), or do a straight block? I've always been someone who will respond even to decline as it's basic courtesy....
𝑻𝒉𝒆 𝒘𝒐𝒓𝒔𝒕 𝒌𝒊𝒏𝒅 𝒐𝒇 𝒍𝒐𝒏𝒆𝒍𝒊𝒏𝒆𝒔𝒔 𝒊𝒔 𝒘𝒉𝒆𝒏 𝒚𝒐𝒖𝒓 𝒍𝒊𝒇𝒆 𝒊𝒔 𝒇𝒊𝒍𝒍𝒆𝒅 𝒘𝒊𝒕𝒉 𝒑𝒆𝒐𝒑𝒍𝒆 𝒘𝒉𝒐 𝒅𝒐𝒏’𝒕 𝒏𝒐𝒕𝒊𝒄𝒆 𝒚𝒐𝒖, 𝒆𝒚𝒆𝒔 𝒕𝒉𝒂𝒕 𝒅𝒐𝒏’𝒕 𝒔𝒆𝒆 𝒚𝒐𝒖𝒓 𝒕𝒆𝒂𝒓𝒔, 𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝒆𝒂𝒓𝒔 𝒕𝒉𝒂𝒕 𝒅𝒐𝒏’𝒕 𝒉𝒆𝒂𝒓 𝒚𝒐𝒖𝒓 𝒎𝒖𝒇𝒇𝒍𝒆𝒅 𝒄𝒓𝒊𝒆𝒔.
𝑩𝒚 𝑯𝒂𝒔𝒔𝒊𝒃
I felt it's IMPOSSIBLE to find someone (for Marriage) from here, Noone is serious even a Reply ❌
Finding Someone on the Same Wavelength: An Islamic Perspective
In Islam, it is natural to seek someone who is compatible with you intellectually, emotionally, spiritually, and educationally. While education and intelligence can contribute to a strong connection, Islam places greater importance on faith, character, and shared values.
A person who shares your love of learning, understands your way of thinking, and supports your growth can be a blessing. However, true compatibility is found not only in similar knowledge or achievements, but in mutual respect, good character, and a shared commitment to living according to Islamic values.
The strongest relationships are built when two people can understand one another, grow together, and help each other draw closer to Allah while finding peace and companionship in one another.
A man does not cheat because he lost feelings. He cheats because he knows you will still be there when he is done. Too afraid to leave, too selfish to stay loyal, and too weak to love a woman the way she truly deserves.
Let that sit for a moment. It was never about the other woman. It was never about falling out of love or growing apart or any of the polished excuses that get offered afterward. It was about knowing, with quiet confidence, that you would absorb the betrayal and remain. Your loyalty became his safety net, and he used the security of your love to do the one thing that should have ended everything.
That is not a man who lost his way. That is a man who made a calculated decision built entirely on your predictability and his own weakness. A man who genuinely loves a woman does not risk losing her. He does not need to be everywhere else because everywhere else pales in comparison to where he already is. Stop accepting weakness dressed up as complexity. You did not fail to keep him. He failed to deserve you.