Divorced Muslims

CAN SOMEBODY PLEASE EXPLAIN THIS MADNESS TO ME?! 🤨😂 Why is every young person on this app sliding into my messages like I’m some kind of magic problem‑solver?! 🤣 Let’s get this straight RIGHT NOW:

❌ AFTER MONEY?? 💸 HONEY PLEASE!!! My benefits finished AGES ago!! I’m surviving on tea and prayers same as everyone else!! I got zero spare cash, can barely feed my own kids you think I’m funding YOU?! DREAM ON!! 🚫🤣

❌ GOT MUMMY ISSUES?! 🧐 SORRY LOVE I AM NOT YOUR MUM!!! I can’t even look after MYSELF properly never mind mothering a grown man‑child!! I got 4 kids already I AM DONE PARENTING!! 🙅‍♀️🤷‍♀️

❌ AND DON’T EVEN TRY THE VISA / “CAN YOU GET ME INTO YOUR COUNTRY” NONSENSE!! 🛂✈️ THAT AIN’T GONNA HAPPEN IN A MILLION YEARS!! I don’t know anyone important, couldn’t sponsor a hamster let alone a whole person!! You got more chance of flying to Mars than getting that out of me!! 🚀😂

🚨 AND ANOTHER THING READ MY DAMN BIO BEFORE YOU MESSAGE ME!! 📖🤯 It’s all written there plain as day!! Stop messaging me then acting all shocked and surprised when I tell you to go read it!! You didn’t even look did you?! 😒🙄

What part of “48, divorced, 4 kids, just here to talk to other people going through the same thing, get advice and build support” sounds like I’m your bank, your carer or your travel agent?! 🤯🤣 COME ON MAN!! STOP WASTING MY TIME!! I got enough stress sorting my own life out I don’t need this drama!! Go find someone your own age I AM SO NOT THE ONE!! 🚫🔥

Single and searching for real man honestly and loyalty that will marry me not for time pass

The controversial truth: in committed partnerships, your spouse/partner should be your top priority over friends and family. They're who you're building life with, raising potential children with, creating future together. But suggesting partners outrank parents or best friends triggers strong reactions.

This opinion sparks debate because people conflate "comes first" with "abandon everyone else." But prioritizing partner doesn't mean neglecting family or friends. It means when there's conflict between partner's needs and others' wants, partner wins. When building life requires decisions, partner's input matters most. When crisis hits, partner is who you turn to first. Because they're your chosen family, your life partner, your future. Parents raised you but don't live your adult life.

Friends support you but aren't building household with you. Your partner is who you're creating everything with, finances, home, potentially children, retirement, legacy. That relationship requires top priority to thrive. People uncomfortable with this usually have unhealthy family enmeshment or haven't fully committed to partnership. Mature adults understand that lifelong partnership requires prioritization even when uncomfortable.

You shouldn’t get married to Someone then cheat and manipulate them and use them to take advantage of there kidness and childhood trauma this world is a test but women these days make it difficult for men

I tried to give you what you never had. Now I understand why you never had it. Even if my heart continues to love you. I will never pick you again.

I’d love to meet someone mature and experienced in life, whether they’ve been married before or have children. What matters most to me is good character, compatibility, and building a strong partnership together.

I think...............🤔
The beauty of a woman is not in a facial mode but the true beauty in a woman is reflected in her soul..................👀

A good word is half the way to success!

Good night 🌉💤💤

One of the hardest lessons to learn is that you cannot heal, fix, save, or change someone who has no desire to change themselves. Many women stay in unhealthy relationships because they believe their love will be enough to inspire growth, maturity, responsibility, or commitment. They convince themselves that if they love harder, stay longer, or sacrifice more, eventually the person will become who they need them to be.

But when a man cannot find the motivation to change for his own child—the person who should naturally inspire his greatest sense of responsibility—it is dangerous to believe that a romantic relationship will suddenly create that motivation. Real change comes from within. It comes from accountability, self-awareness, and a genuine desire to become better, not from someone else’s hope, patience, or unconditional love.

Too often, women become attached to a man’s potential instead of accepting his reality. They fall in love with who he could be rather than who he consistently shows himself to be. In the process, they end up carrying emotional burdens that were never theirs to carry, waiting for a transformation that may never come.

The painful truth is that you cannot build a future on promises, potential, or possibilities. You have to build it on actions. And if someone has repeatedly shown you who they are, believe them. Love is powerful, but it is not magic. It cannot force someone to become the person they refuse to become for themselves. Sometimes the healthiest thing you can do is stop trying to save someone and start choosing your own peace instead. 🤍