Mental health

We tend to undermine our state of mind, we take our emotions for-granted. But in reality, our emotions and mental wellbeing is as precious and fragile as our physical health. Be mindful, take care of it.

🙌 Smile when the outcome is positive. Don't smile when the outcome is negative. I’m not asking you to smile regardless of circumstances; I’m saying that your smile becomes evidence that the decision aligned with the result.

Some people feel the rain others just get wet.

“Sometimes the strongest people are the ones fighting battles silently in their own minds.
Check on your friends. Be kind. You never know what someone is carrying.” 🖤

And suddenly, the silence weighs more than the noise,
like every thought carries a hidden storm inside.
Smiling feels heavier than it should,
and even breathing takes a little more strength than before.

I have done therapy prior, but it was not with someone who understood my cultural background. I decided I wanted to start therapy again, but with a new therapist that is also Muslim today. Pretty anxious, but inshAllah it will help me access tools to help with my anxiety and depression.

I didn’t realize how mental health is so heavily intertwined in our religion, but Alhumdulliah for this book that guided me.

Wish me luck! (Or the religious equivalent - still working on my imaan)

Why We Self-Sabotage ?
You finally meet someone good. Stable. Kind. And something in you gets uncomfortable.
That discomfort? That's not a red flag about them.
It's your nervous system saying "I don't recognize safety. I only know intensity."
We don't fall for who's best for us. We fall for what feels familiar. And if chaos was your normal growing up calm will feel boring. Until you heal.

Avoidant/Anxious Dynamic :
The most painful dating pattern nobody talks about:
The anxious person craves closeness. The avoidant person fears it. So they find each other perfectly, magnetically.
The anxious chases. The avoidant pulls back. The anxious tries harder. The avoidant feels suffocated.
Neither is villian. Both are wounded.
Most "incompatible" couples aren't incompatible they're just two unhealed people triggering each other's oldest fears.

What’s everyone’s thoughts on trusting your gut for fearful avoidant people. Like whenever you’re in the talking stage with someone and you suddenly get uncomfortable even moving forward, and then you make up reasons for why it wouldn’t work out, despite the person being actually really great. And then you don’t know if it’s a gut feeling that you should trust or you just being fearful avoidant. Obviously istikharah is the best move but it’s still confusing sometimes.

It definetly takes active effort into not running away when things get serious, but it’s like a physical nervous system reaction, you even may get the ick.

Anyone else experience this?