Mental health

What’s something you learned the hard way?

I feel like I’m at such a weird stage in my life because I don’t feel my age (37). I don’t look my age either… (most ppl say 27) but I just feel like everyone is too young or too old for me. lol 😂 Emotionally I feel like a teenager tbh. I’m thinking because I was so mature as a child and teen I never got to just be a kid.. also had strict parents … then in my 20s I was so busy working, and not knowing I was Auhd.. then I had my child in my early 30s. I feel like I never emotionally recovered. 🫠 then the thought of marriage with another person is scary… because what if they cause more harm. Sometimes I feel like the risk isn’t worth it. Maybe it’s better to be alone than giving marriage a chance. I really would love the idea of a man who models the prophet Mohammed pbuh character and love he had for his family … but I have yet to meet such a person. Everyone just wants a wife but I don’t think they want to be a husband.

I have a good friend from Iran. We have known each other for almost two years, I guess. The last time we talked was in November 2025. I have kept trying to text her, but there is no answer. Her 'last seen' was also a long time ago. I am really worried about her. Well, I miss her, I hope she is fine and Allah always protects her.

Maturity is when you want peace more than revenge.

Happiness is not just about being rich in money. I’m not saying money shouldn’t matter, but don’t lose yourself while chasing it. Sometimes people search for happiness in the wrong places. The greatest wealth in this world is family. No matter how rich you are, you may never find the happiness you’re looking for. If you have a family—parents, a spouse, siblings—then you are already rich. If you have friends, you are already rich. Being loved and respected by others is true wealth. Setting the right priorities and making the right choices will always benefit you. Whether you are poor or rich, everything will stay behind in this world.

Mental peace and mental strength are the real foundation of life.
When your mind is healthy you can take care of your body.
And only when both are balanced, you can handle your work life and personal life peacefully.
So before everything else prioritize yourself first.🙂

Takde rasa marah pon bila dia tak text.. Heads up is important if you know you're going to be busy.. Last month both of us keep fighting over the weekend

I missed my boyfriend. Both of us have been very busy over the past few days and none of us text each other.. Cuz we know we are busy..that's why i told him to just give me a heads up and I'll be okay at least i don't have to feel ghosted

If you like reading, here is a list of books I have written. They are available on Amazon:

Cognitive Intervention( https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B0DBR76MTP) is a workbook with a narrative style of one John Smith, that goes through the various aspects of Rational Emotive Behaviour Therapy (REBT).

The second book, Thinking Traps (https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B0DK17N31T) describes the various cognitive distortions that create emotional issues; the book then discusses various logical fallacies and shows how cognitive distortions generate logical fallacies.

The third book, Why Are We Here? (https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B0DCK6W7TL ) is a story of my own spiritual journey intertwined with some of the most fundamental questions that all human beings ask such as why do we exist in this world and why do bad things happen, etc.

The fourth book. Adam & Iblees - The Choice (https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B0DV4HTZSY) is about hubris and pride vs humility. It uses the example of Adam and Iblees from the scriptures and illustrates that both disobeyed God - but Adam acknowledged his mistake and apologised while Iblees got stuck in his pride. They both made mistakes but what they did AFTER that is what determined their fate.