Mental health

When I was young I used to fear death sm, I would genuinely start praying and asking for forgiveness for my sins when I heard of someone passing away. , now as an adult when I hear of someone’s death I genuinely feel jealous. I am like they are so lucky they don’t have to pay bills anymore, or go to work, or meet their potential or find a partner and get married. I genuinely feel like they have escaped the suffering of this world.

Is something wrong with me?

Guys why are U Questioning ?

Many people feel alone in life. They struggle alone, rise alone, without realizing that everything comes from Allah SWT, both the strength and the ability they have. So when things feel overwhelming, they easily fall into despair.

My dear friends, let us never lose hope in the mercy of Allah. Remember that everything happens by His decree, qadarullah. Return everything to the One who holds dominion over the universe. Never feel alone, for Allah is always beside you. So increase your gratitude and seek His forgiveness through istighfar.

Remember when Ibrahim AS was thrown into the fire, or when Musa AS was trapped between the sea and Pharaoh’s army? It seemed completely impossible for them to escape. Yet they never lost hope, because nothing is impossible for Allah. When He decrees a matter, He only says to it, “Be,” and it is—Kun fa yakun.

🧠 The Psychological Paradox of Tawakkul
The Agony of Control vs. The Peace of Surrender

As a psychologist, one of the most consistent drivers of human anxiety I see is the desperate, exhausting desire for control. From a behavioral standpoint, our brains are wired to predict, manage, and micro-manage our environments just to feel safe.

Yet, the very heartbeat of Islam is Tawakkul absolute reliance and the word Islam itself translates directly to submission.
This creates a fascinating psychological paradox: Our biology demands control, but our spirituality demands surrender.

When we fight the Divine Decree (Qadr), trying to force outcomes we were never meant to handle, we experience severe cognitive dissonance and emotional burnout.

True psychological peace doesn’t come from finally gaining total control over our lives, it comes from realising we never had it in the first place, and being entirely at peace with that because the One who is in control is the Most Merciful.

Dr Muhammad

Going on a Muslim dating app doesn't mean the guy will be mentally healthy... but hey, at least he won't be Islamophobic.

If you have such a friend, then hold onto them at all costs
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What do you want in live?

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If you have trauma, especially bad experiences with the opposite ***, please heal that trauma first. If you have trust issues with the opposite ***, please resolve those trust issues first. Why?

Do you realize that sometimes old wounds that haven’t healed can turn into anxiety and hesitation in moving forward? Sometimes unhealed trauma becomes a barrier to accepting good opportunities. People who are actually good end up looking gray in our eyes because of trust issues, because we’re still hesitant in accepting and deciding things when our emotional wounds haven’t healed. How do we do it?
Journal it. Write down our problem and think about its opposite.

Example:

I don’t trust the opposite *** because I’ve often been disappointed.

Also write its opposite:

I trust the opposite *** because I’m sure I won’t be disappointed again.

Write it, say it, and feel it repeatedly and consistently until you truly heal, and feel the difference.

Hope this helps.

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