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How Can You Tell If Someone Is Genuine? A Practical Reflection

I know this is longer than most posts, and I know many people will not read all of it. That is okay. I am not writing for likes, followers, or attention. I am writing because knowledge should move from one generation to another. Everything I have learned from life, business, relationships, psychology, books, successes, failures, and observing people over the last 25 years deserves to be passed on. Perhaps one day it will help someone. Perhaps one day it will help my daughter. Perhaps one day it will help your son, your daughter, or someone you care about. If all you do after reading this is make a dua, mention one of the beautiful names of Allah, or learn something useful, then it was worth writing.

One of the most common questions in relationships is: “How do I know he is not fake?” or “How do I know she is not fake?” The truth is that there is no method on earth that gives 100% certainty about another human being. Only Allah knows what is truly inside the hearts. However, there are ways to significantly reduce the risk of being deceived. Never judge a person by a single conversation, a profile picture, a photograph, or even a few weeks of communication. Anyone can create a good first impression. Anyone can say the right things. Character is not revealed in moments; it is revealed in patterns. Over time, I have learned that understanding people is less about reading minds and more about observing consistency. Human beings leave clues everywhere. Their words, actions, timing, reactions, stories, habits, and choices often tell a story long before they realize it themselves.

Even a profile or bio can teach you something if you know what to look for. Is it written like a real human being speaking about their life, or does it sound like a perfect marketing advertisement? Does it contain specific details, personal experiences, and imperfections, or is it filled with generic statements that could belong to anyone? Does the person describe who they are, or only who they wish others to believe they are? AI-generated, copied, or heavily edited bios often sound polished but emotionally empty. Genuine people usually leave traces of real life. Pay attention to inconsistencies. Does their age match their timeline? Does their education match their story? Does their financial status make sense when compared to their lifestyle and experiences? Do their intentions remain stable, or do they change depending on the conversation? Do they avoid direct questions about their past? Most importantly, do their actions support their claims? You do not need to become suspicious of everyone. You simply need to become observant. People often tell you who they are. The challenge is that many of us listen to what we hope to hear instead of what is actually being said.

After my own social experiments and years of observing human behavior, I would be dishonest if I said I have not seen fake personalities, mind games, manipulation, attention-seeking behavior, and people presenting versions of themselves that are far from reality. Yet despite all of that, I have made a conscious decision not to become cynical. The existence of dishonest people does not eliminate the existence of honest people. The existence of manipulation does not mean sincerity no longer exists. I have met enough good people to know they do. The world contains both. My advice is simple: observe patterns, verify information, take your time, involve trusted family members, make istikhara, and trust Allah. Do not rush because loneliness is present. Do not ignore red flags because attraction is present. Do not surrender your judgment because emotions are present. The more I study people, the more I realize that healthy relationships are rarely built by one perfect person finding another perfect person. They are built by two imperfect people committed to honesty, growth, accountability, mercy, and good character. If this knowledge helps even one person make a wiser decision, avoid a painful mistake, or recognize a sincere person they might otherwise overlook, then every page I have ever read was worth it.

May Allah, Al-Hakeem (The Most Wise), Al-Aleem (The All-Knowing), Al-Baseer (The All-Seeing), and Al-Lateef (The Most Gentle), grant us wisdom in our judgments, clarity in our decisions, sincerity in our relationships, and the ability to recognize truth from falsehood. May He protect us from deception, guide us to people of honesty and taqwa, and make us people of honesty ourselves.

اللهم ارزقنا البصيرة والحكمة وحسن الاختيار، وأعنا على معرفة الحق واتباعه، وجنبنا الخداع والفتن ما ظهر منها وما بطن، وارزقنا الصدق والإخلاص في أقوالنا وأعمالنا وعلاقاتنا، واجعلنا من أهل التقوى والأمانة وحسن الخلق، واحفظ أبناءنا وبناتنا ومن نحب من كل سوء، ووفقهم إلى الخير أينما كانوا.

آمين.

All men here. No women.
Don't be deceived by men who look like women and keep bickering all the time.
Get off the muzz and start looking for real women

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Assalamualaikum everyone..
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I’ve put off getting married because I don’t want to get married like them and end up being a carbon copy of them. Years will pass, we’ll meet up, and we’ll keep talking about how marriage has robbed us of our youth. I want to marry someone, but I’m afraid of upsetting her or making her sick if we spend a night lying back-to-back, still fighting…

If we’re fighting? I won’t feel like eating if she’s not sitting across from me at the table. I want someone who, if she’s tired, I can leave work and stay by her side, serve her with my own hands, and give her medicine—not take her to her mom to relieve her worries…

I’ll always want to share every step and every dream with her, and she’ll have all the flaws in the world, but I won’t see them as flaws. She’s part of me; I’ll always love her presence, not just what she offers…

Someone I’d swallow a rock for, someone who, when people see her, they’d say, “He’s spellbound by her,” because of how much I care and how passionate I am about her. Her beauty, her wealth, or her family background don’t matter to me. She’s the one—when I see her, I know she’s the one.

I don’t want to go sit with them years from now and tell them, “Look at me, I never got married,” and that marriage wasted our youth and broke our backs. I want, years from now, to not even have time to sit with them in the first place, because all my time will be for my home—the place where, once I entered it, I regained my youth and tasted the sweetness of life. I’m not in a hurry, and I won’t miss out on anything good unless I marry someone who isn’t the right one for me.
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The Prophet Muhammad said: "if a woman had a servant before marriage, her husband is obligated to provide her with a servant." All four Muslim schools of thought state that a husband is obligated to provide his future wife with the same standard of living which she lived on before marriage. If you spend $3,000 a month on yourself before marriage, your husband should spend the same amount on you. I graduated from an Islamic university. We've been researching all these issues, and I'm simply shocked by how Muslim men deceive women. They train them to remain ignorant of their financial support. The are in SHARIA the concept of KAFAAT:
Four correlations between the groom and the bride. The first is financial status (!!) The second is the number of Muslims in the family. The third is the amount of islamic knowledge. And so on. And all of these points must be higher for the groom than for the bride. The groom must earn as much as the bride, or more. But not less! Otherwise, according to the Hanafi madhhab, such a marriage is highly undesirable!
Why is it that when girl start talking to a man, she ask him about his income, and he freaks out, insults, and runs away? All the men here get hysterical.
I currently have a housekeeper. According to the hadith, my husband is obligated to provide her to me. But he refuses to answer financial questions and accuses me of being mercenary. Men don't even know Sharia. They follow only their own EGO. The Prophet Muhammad said "the worst of men is the greedy man." Why should I communicate with a man for four weeks and then he tells me his salary is $100? Why should I waste my time? It's haram.