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The person I dated from this app turned out to be an a$$ and I’ve been so skeptical about dating from here I’m so careful now. I don’t know if it’s okay to be on here

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Marriage triggers universal personality changes in less than two years.

Marriage goes far beyond a legal or social commitment—it acts as a powerful catalyst for genuine psychological shifts in both partners. A landmark longitudinal study followed 169 heterosexual newlywed couples, assessing their Big Five personality traits (openness, conscientiousness, extraversion, agreeableness, and neuroticism) at 6, 12, and 18 months post-wedding. The findings reveal consistent patterns of change that emerge early in marriage, largely independent of factors like age, premarital cohabitation, or the presence of children.

Husbands typically showed increases in conscientiousness, becoming more responsible, organized, and dependable—traits that support the demands of shared life and household stability. Wives, on the other hand, experienced notable declines in neuroticism, reporting reduced anxiety, anger, and emotional volatility, which translated into greater overall emotional stability.

However, these adaptations came with trade-offs. Both partners tended to become less open to new experiences, possibly as they settled into familiar domestic routines and routines. Extraversion also declined, with couples often prioritizing their relationship over wider social networks, leading to fewer outings and interactions with friends. Additionally, agreeableness decreased for both husbands and wives, suggesting that as the initial "courtship mask"—the idealized, highly accommodating behavior of early romance—fades, partners may become less patient and more prone to friction in everyday interactions.

These shifts appear remarkably universal across the sample, occurring regardless of baseline differences. While some changes (like heightened conscientiousness in men or reduced neuroticism in women) correlated with higher marital satisfaction over time, others (such as drops in agreeableness) highlight potential sources of strain.

Because these personality transformations are largely inevitable, experts emphasize that marital longevity depends not just on initial compatibility but on deliberate efforts to cultivate self-control, patience, and forgiveness. Couples who actively work to adapt to these evolving dynamics are better positioned to maintain a healthy, satisfying relationship as the honeymoon phase gives way to long-term partnership.

[Lavner, J. A., Karney, B. R., & Bradbury, T. N. "Personality change among newlyweds: Patterns, predictors, and associations with marital satisfaction over time." Developmental Psychology, 54(6), 1172–1185. DOI: 10.1037/dev0000491]

Do not believe in words or love bombing.
But believe in slow progress and consistency.

98 percent of people on this muzz are just here for cruise, no fear of Allah, toying with people’s emotions….. no be una fault, na my mama wey want make I marry, if it is up to me,,,🤷‍♀️

I admire emotional intelligence, kindness, modesty, and people who make others feel safe.

Physical appearance or character?