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For the brothers - one major red flag in a potential?
I will go first.. having male friends
I learned to be both mother and father, but it was Allah who carried me when I felt too weak to continue.🤲
What do I need to heal right now to truly let this go....... 💔
"As much as I have longed for you, you must not have even seen yourself with such longing."
Please tell whether he wants to marry as per his own choice or is it good to marry as per his parents' choice? If it's a girl or a boy, it's fine to marry as per your choice. What do you guys think?
Men, Ego, and Fulfilling Responsibility in Islam
In Islam, men are entrusted with responsibilities that are an amānah (trust) from Allah, whether in family life, society, or their personal duties before Him. These responsibilities are not based on superiority, but on accountability and duty.
When a man consistently avoids or fails to fulfil his obligations due to ego, laziness, emotional immaturity, or attachment to lower desires (nafs), this is understood in Islam as ضعف في النفس (weakness of the self) and ضعف في الإيمان (weakness in faith). The nafs can lead a person toward comfort, avoidance of difficulty, and resistance to accountability, even when he knows what is right.
In Islamic understanding, strength is not defined by control over others, status, or outward image, but by self-control, discipline, and the ability to act responsibly even when it is difficult. The Prophet ﷺ clarified that true strength is the ability to restrain oneself at the moment of anger and impulse, not the ability to dominate others.
At the same time, Islam does not leave a person defined by these weaknesses. A man is still accountable for his choices, but he is also always capable of return, repentance, and reform. The door of tawbah remains open, and inner change is always possible when a person turns back to Allah with sincerity.
Ultimately, Islam calls men to rise above ego-driven behaviour and develop ikhlas (sincerity), discipline, and responsibility, not as a cultural expectation, but as part of their standing before Allah.
