Muslims in Canada

Assalamu Alaikum everyone,

My name is Mohammad. I am 37 years old, originally from Jordan, and I come from an Arab family. I work in the field of finance and risk management and value honesty, respect, kindness, and family.

I am divorced, and I see marriage as a partnership built on trust, understanding, and mutual support. I am looking for a sincere Muslim woman who is genuinely interested in building a stable and loving family.

I currently hold a valid Canadian visa, so I am able to travel to Canada and would be happy to connect with someone who is already living there or planning to build a future there.

If you believe we might be compatible, feel free to reach out. May Allah bless everyone with a righteous spouse.

Salam!

Has anyone been to the Muslim matrimonial Canada events in GTA? There’s one happening in Milton next week. What’s the proportion of male to female and average age range? I’ve never been to an in person event before so don’t know what to expect. Also is it worth it to go if you are a hijabi, I feel like most guys prefer non-hijabi.

Been on this app for years and haven't been able to find the right guy. I'm 40 and never been married. Everyone around me is married - friends and siblings and I'm the last one left so it feels so weird at events when they are all there with their spouses. I have a fulfilling life with work, friends and hobbies. But everyone keeps getting busy with theirs lives with their spouses and kids and have less and less time for me. And it's also getting harder and harder to just manage life alone. This makes me feel terribly lonely and crave romantic love and affection from a partner. After a long day I want nothing more than being in the arms of a loving husband. I also feel like after parents I won't have anyone to live for. Anyone else feeling that? What to do?

Moroccan won 🏆 🙌 👏 😎 woohoo

Yesterday, a smile.
Today, silence.
Tomorrow, a memory.
Then, forgotten.
That's all everything becomes.

By request of sister @Muslimah7

One of the greatest lessons I learned during my years in law enforcement didn't come from making arrests or solving investigations. 
It came from simply listening. 
As investigators, we're trained to interview people from every walk of life, victims, witnesses, suspects, and ordinary people who unexpectedly find themselves caught up in difficult situations. Before receiving that training, I believed memory worked much like a video recording. If someone was telling the truth, I assumed they would simply remember exactly what happened. 
I couldn't have been more wrong. 
One of the first things I learned was that most inaccurate statements are not lies. More often than not, they're honest attempts by sincere people to recall events as accurately as they can. 
Human memory is imperfect. It fades over time. Details become mixed together. Conversations with others can unintentionally influence what we remember. Sometimes we fill in gaps without even realizing we're doing it. 
That realization changed the way I interviewed people. 
More importantly, it changed the way I communicate with everyone around me. 
What Good Interviewing Really Taught Me 
People often imagine that interviewing is about catching someone in a lie. 
In reality, the best interviewers aren't trying to trap people. They're trying to understand them. 
Over the years, I found myself asking one simple question over and over: 
"What does this person actually know, and what are they assuming?" 
There's a big difference. 
Someone might genuinely remember seeing a blue vehicle. 
Someone else might assume it belonged to a particular person. 
Another might repeat something they heard from someone else. 
All three people may believe they're telling the truth, yet only one is speaking from firsthand knowledge. 
Learning to separate facts from assumptions became one of the most valuable skills I ever developed. 
Five Lessons That Changed the Way I Listen 
1.) Let people tell their story. 
Instead of rushing into specific questions, I'd often begin with: 
"Tell me what happened." 
It's amazing what people remember when they're allowed to speak without interruption. 
Sometimes the most important details come without ever being asked. 
2.) Don't be afraid of silence. 
Silence makes most people uncomfortable. 
As an interviewer, I learned that if I simply waited after someone finished speaking, they'd often continue talking. 
Sometimes they'd remember another important detail. 
Other times they'd begin guessing. 
Learning to recognize the difference taught me patience. 
3.) Consistency matters more than speed. 
I'd often return to the same question later in the interview using different wording. 
Not because I expected someone to lie. 
Because memory works differently each time we access it. 
Interestingly, honest people sometimes change their answers, not because they're dishonest, but because they begin doubting themselves. 
That taught me never to jump to conclusions. 
4.) Respect opens doors. 
People speak more openly when they feel respected. 
Building rapport isn't manipulation. It's recognizing that every person deserves dignity. 
Whether someone was a victim, a witness, or a suspect, treating them with respect almost always led to better conversations. 
That's a lesson I try to carry into everyday life. 
5.) Slow down. 
One of the simplest techniques was asking people to walk through events one step at a time. 
When we slow down, memories often become clearer. When we rush, assumptions tend to fill the gaps. I've found the same is true outside the interview room. 
The Mistakes We All Make 
One thing investigative interviewing taught me is how easily we influence one another without intending to. 
A leading question can suggest an answer. 
An assumption can become accepted as fact. 
Pressure can cause someone to guess instead of saying, "I don't know." 
I've seen good people unintentionally provide inaccurate information simply because they felt they were expected to have an answer. 
That lesson has stayed with me ever since. 
What This Means for Everyday Life 
These lessons didn't stay at work. They changed how I speak to my family. 
How I resolve disagreements. How I listen to friends. How I make decisions. 
I've learned to pause before answering. I've learned that saying, "I'm not sure," is often wiser than pretending to be certain. 
I've learned to ask myself: 
Did I actually see this? Do I know this to be true? Or am I filling in the blanks? 
Those three questions alone have saved me from making countless unfair assumptions. 
A Lesson for Marriage 
Perhaps nowhere are these lessons more valuable than in marriage. 
Many disagreements aren't caused by dishonesty. They're caused by assumptions. 
Two sincere people can remember the same conversation differently. 
One spouse may hear criticism where none was intended. The other may assume they explained themselves clearly when they didn't. 
Instead of asking: 
"Why did you do that?" 
Try asking: 
"Help me understand what you were thinking." 
One invites an explanation. While the other often feels like an accusation. 
Listening to understand instead of listening to respond has strengthened many conversations in my own life. 
Sometimes the simplest question "Can you help me understand?" can prevent an argument before it begins. 
An Islamic Perspective 
The more I reflect on these lessons, the more I realize they were principles our faith taught long before I ever entered an interview room. 
Islam teaches us to be truthful. To verify information before acting upon it. To avoid suspicion. 
To judge fairly. To speak with wisdom. Truthfulness isn't simply avoiding lies. It's being honest about what we know...and equally honest about what we don't know. 
Sometimes the most truthful words a person can say are: 
"I don't remember." "I'm not sure." "I could be mistaken." 
Those aren't signs of weakness. 
They're signs of integrity. 
Final Thoughts 
Looking back, investigative interviewing taught me far more than how to ask better questions. 
It taught me humility. It taught me patience. 
It taught me that listening is often more powerful than speaking. 
Most importantly, it reminded me that our words carry weight. 
Whether we're speaking to our spouse, our children, our colleagues, or a stranger, we should try to speak with honesty, fairness, and wisdom. Sometimes the wisest thing we can say is simply: 
"I'm not sure." 
 
The Prophet SAW taught that the best of people are those who are best to their families.

As-salāmu ʿalaykum everyone. 🤍

I have a sincere question, and I would really appreciate Islamic advice without judgment.

I’m a single mother, and I’m currently separated from my husband. We are in the process of getting divorced, although the divorce has not been finalized yet.

Recently, I started talking to someone. I don’t even know if he likes me in that way or not, but from what I’ve seen, he’s a genuinely kind, respectful, and good-hearted person. Our conversations have been respectful, and there hasn’t been any flirting or anything inappropriate.

My question is: Is it Islamically okay to get to know someone in this situation, or is it wrong for me to even be talking to him while my divorce is still in progress? Should I wait until my divorce is finalized and, if applicable, my ʿiddah has ended before getting to know anyone?

I also have another question. Since I’ve been through a lot in my life, I don’t want to ignore red flags or make the same mistakes again. How can I tell if a man is sincere or if he’s just playing with my emotions? What are the signs of a genuinely good man, and what are the warning signs that someone isn’t serious?

I’m genuinely trying to do what pleases Allah. I’m not looking for validation—I sincerely want to follow the Qur’an and authentic Sunnah while also protecting my heart and making wise decisions.

Jazakum Allahu khayran. May Allah guide us all to what is best. Āmīn. 🤲

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