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As some of you are aware, have pointed out, have DM'd or have just plain observed and got a good laugh out of it or have admired my awe inspiring beauty, I've been conducting some research that picqued my interest. To do this, I turned pretty. Today, I reached the 1,000 DM mark and have concluded my research and deleted the entire list which was some heavy lifting. Below are my findings. Looking forward to getting my old face back 🤭

TLDR: most are expected results. Women get WAY more engagement, DMs etc on the app. By a factor of 10x and I would consider myself average looking in this photo. If you're a beautiful woman, that number probably scales higher. The DMs are pretty low effort. Low barrier but very little value for most guys. There's likely hundreds of other men in her inbox. It gave me an appreciation and some further empathy for what some of the ladies encounter if they keep DMs open.

1. Being a woman overwhelmingly outperforms a man on engagement regardless of attractiveness. I used my looksmatched photo to keep it apples to apples. Being a generally attractive woman is a cheat code. I had about 100 or so DMs over 30 days spent here as a guy. I hit the 1000 mark in under 10 days without making too many posts and being explicit about who I was

2. DM Composition skewed outside US. 94 were US based of various ethnicities, 258 were from Nigeria, 159 were from Saudi Arabia, 115 were from Pakistan, 83 from Bangladesh, 78 were from Morocco, 117 from Egypt, 36 from the UK, 51 from Algeria, 5 from Bosnia, 3 from China and 1 from Malaysia.

3. Generally low effort. Hello or Hi more often. There was one person who wrote me a poem which was nice. Another sounded Aladdin. And another was a friend on here who told me they were just testing something and to not respond to the DM

4. Engagement in terms of views go up 5x or more on similar posts

5. People are really territorial about when you change your profile picture 😂. Unintended benefit is that I think I've made more friends in the last 10 days as it's a fun conversation starter.

6. I'm an absolute smokeshow of a woman

It's good to walk a mile in the other person's shoes sometimes. This was good perspective.

O you who wish to go to MADINA
LISTEN AND LISTEN VERY CAREFULLY
https://www.instagram.com/reel/DaDIx7vjgvy/?igsh=cmY5cnVycjg1eXg=

"Not liking someone is okay"

But creating lies to destroy their character, isn’t just dislike, it’s insecurity seeking relief.

In psychology,,, this often reflects projection and defensive superiority
when someone feels threatened, they distort your image
to feel bigger, safer, or more in control.

It’s not truth they’re protecting.
It’s their ego.
Healthy people walk away.
Unhealed ones try to damage what they can’t handle.

I will go bandung Who lives here?

Is there any job at muzz ?I truly respect the app and learnt a lot about promoting marriage based apps , if any work opportunity is available please let me know @muzz

Idk who needs to see it.....

Healthy relationships thrive on thoughtfulness,,, Respect shows in how you act and consider each other, not in control or sacrifice of self,,, Caring enough to protect the relationship creates trust, balance, and lasting peace😇

If anyone's done an MBTI test, share what you got! Mine's ISTJ 🧐

HOW TO RECOGNIZE TRUE CONNECTION?

Recognizing a true connection with someone can be a profound experience. According to the post, some signs of a true connection include:

1.Natural and effortless connection: Being together feels easy and familiar.

2.Peace, not anxiety: You feel emotional safety and clarity, rather than uncertainty or stress.

3.Aligned timing: Life seems to bring you back together despite obstacles.

4.Mutual growth: The connection inspires personal growth, healing, and maturity.

5.Meaningfulsilence: You feel comfortable and understood even in silence.

Other signs might include:

✔Shared values and interests: You have a deep understanding and alignment on what's important.
✔Authenticity: You can be your true self around each other.
✔Empathy and understanding: You feel seen and heard by each other.
✔Consistent signs and synchronicities: You notice repeated signs or coincidences that feel meaningful.

Ultimately,,, a true connection feels unique to the individuals involved, and these signs can vary from person to person.